We live for feelings. That’s why we do what we do in the first place – for the feeling it give us.

Whether it is for the thrill, the fear, the peace, the turmoil, the happiness or the sadness (which I really don’t get) we base decisions on how an action will make us feel.

It’s not the act of acquiring things, it’s the feeling we get when we do so. It’s not the accomplishment we make, it’s how it makes us feel when we have accomplished something.

Think about it – when we do something nice for someone, it makes us feel good. And yes, there are people out there that will be mean to someone and it makes them feel good. Evil, I know, but true none the less.

So if feelings dictate actions, we can satisfy the feelings we want and need by our actions. We can choose how we are going to feel.

If you are at a place in your life where you are making big changes in your daily existence, you can choose how successful those changes are going to be by your actions. You can choose your actions by how they are going to make you feel. If every decision gets closer and closer to your Dream Life, you are going to feel happy, empowered and alive! And with the accomplishment of each stage of change, you will be building positive momentum that will carry you even faster toward your goal.

Feelings can be good. Feelings can be a great motivator. But feelings can also

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In my acronym for the word SELFISH in The Most Selfish Woman in America, the letter L is for Laughter. It’s all about enjoying life and choosing a positive attitude. Because that IS your choice.

Attitude is everything! I repeat:  Attitude is everything!

It’s what separates the good from the bad, the strong from the weak, the happy from the sad.

And happiness is a choice, not a side effect of a circumstance. It is all in your control.

You can dictate the outcome of almost any situation by how you choose to respond to it.

The way you react to what happens to you is completely in your control. Yes, bad things happen to good people. Life happens to everybody! But the way we respond to it reveals our true character.

You can choose to whine and pout, still not changing what has already happened, and making yourself feel miserable. Or you can choose a positive response to a bad situation, making yourself feel less of a victim, and more in control of the outcome. This choice will accelerate your recovery from whatever life dishes out.

You will never make a successful recovery from your divorce if you continue to feed energy to that old phase of your life. Every time you talk about it, you are perpetuating it’s power over you and giving it a life line. And it doesn’t deserve it! Flip off that life support Sister! Quick!

The sooner you take that power away from your old life, the sooner you will feel the positive power of your new choices. Like I said, happiness is a choice, not a side effect.

It’s good to be happy for a change! It’s good to feel in control! It’s good to be a SELFISH WOMAN!

Happy Living!

Christia Sale

The Most Selfish Woman in America!

How great is it to get away? Even if it is only for a short time. I love to travel. The escape factor is so exhilarating!

That break from daily life can work magic. It can get you back on track with a renewed interest.

Sometimes we start drifting through our days, loosing focus and not being as productive toward our goals. It’s easy to do. Routine can be good, but it can also lull you into inefficiency. This is when a weekend getaway can do wonders.

A few days at a spa with the girls, a weekend shopping in another city, basking on a beach somewhere, going to a concert in Vegas or New York City… insert your getaway here.

When I travel, I feel more alive. My creative juices start flowing. I get out of my little world and see what other people see. I get inspired by the experience itself. And I always learn something new. Never fails. Which is part of the beauty of traveling. I come home more enlightened and more energized. Then I ride that wave back into my own life.

If you don’t go overboard financially, you can go more often. Yes, I love to go to Europe or scuba diving for a few weeks at a time, but it’s the short trips that breathe new life into my

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