February 22, 2012

It’s Time To Get Out There!

Let me start by saying that this year one of our goals is to enjoy life more! To have more fun, meet more people, enjoy your environment and hopefully contribute somehow to the greater good. And if you have read my book, you know that I am a big promoter of enjoying life! Now, that being said….

The season has changed, the weather has too, and the birds are carrying on like they are at a Sting concert!

It’s Nature’s invitation for us to get out there and party! Enjoy her wealth of offerings. Watch her domain come back to life, which is how Nature makes me feel. Alive!

When I see the green leaves and the tender sprouts appear as if on stage. I am the first one to applaud! I am a sucker for Nature. I feel closer to the Universe when I go outside and just sit in the sunshine, listening to the birds, feeling the breeze on my face. If I could bottle that feeling, I would be a bazillionaire! And yes, I would share, of course.

People take the vibrations of Nature for granted. They will enjoy the occasional blooming flower, but complain when the rain makes it harder to get to work.

There is a power in Nature that can feed your very soul if you learn how to tap into it. But that would require you to slow down, get out of the car, and listen… feel… breathe.

I have noticed that I see more (more…)



February 3, 2012

Free Teleseminar to Make This Valentine’s Day the Most SELFISH Ever!

Attention all divorced women! This year why not Make Valentine’s Day the Most SELFISH Ever!

Yeah, I know, it’s that time of year again. The time when it becomes blatantly obvious that we are not in a relationship.

For some reason, we think that it is a reflection of our attractiveness. That we don’t “got it” anymore. Well it’s NOT Sisters!

Listen! Just because you are “between men” does NOT mean you aren’t attractive! It means you are taking a breather! A sanity break! A SELFISH break!

Now… I love men just as much as the next gal, but when you’ve survived the trenches of divorce warfare, you need a break. You need to focus on yourself for a change.

It’s time to thank your lucky stars that you’ve been given another chance at happiness! You escaped the noose! Hallelujah!

I think that’s cause for celebration! And this Valentine’s Day, I am gathering all you divorced women out there together for a free party/teleseminar to do just that!

At 10am Pacific, noon Central, 1p Eastern we are going to all meet up on the telephone, and I’m going to share with you the 7 Steps For The Most SELFISH Valentines Day Ever!

First and foremost we are going to change the way we think about ourselves. We are going to have an Attitude Adjustment! We are going to get right back up on that pedestal where we belong! Then we are going to change the way we see our lives and approach our goals – romantic and otherwise.

We are basically going to take our power back where it belongs! Long Live the Power of the Woman!

All you have to do to join us is sign up here: http://www.themostselfishwomaninamerica.com/valentines-day-teleseminar/

And I would suggest that you just go ahead and plan a party with your single girlfriends for that night. And expect there to be spontaneous cheering goin’ on! I’m talking bonfires and donkeys!  I’ll give you the details on the call. Sign up now and I will send you the teleseminar particulars closer to the date.

But rest assure that it will be one of your favorite Valentine’s Days EVER!

So sign up and get ready!

Until then,

Happy Living!

Christia Sale

The Most SELFISH Woman in America!

Women’s Life-After-Divorce Expert

 



January 30, 2012

Women’s Life-After-Divorce Expert

My name is Christia Sale, and I was just like you. I stayed in an ugly marriage too long. I had been spending most of my life taking care of everyone else at the expense of my own health and happiness. But once I discovered the Seven SELFISH Steps for a positive recovery and reinvention after divorce, I changed my life in amazing and magical ways.

  • I forgave myself for the failure of my marriage.
  • I released the power that my past had over me.
  • I searched my soul for my purpose and passion.
  • I listened honestly to the answers.
  • I reconnected with the power of the Universe.
  • I found my inner peace.
  • I visualized my Dream Life, and made it my reality.

That’s why people call me the leading Women’s Life-After-Divorce Expert.

I’ve reached midlife, and I have children who are sprouting their wings. But what I have to teach you comes from what I learned from surviving a rough marriage and an even rougher divorce.

It was HELL!

But I’m through it now. Done with Hell! And I’m here to tell you that you do not have to be miserable anymore!

Is This Your Life’s Story, Too?

I was raised in an environment where family was the most important thing. So it was sad when I realized, at the beginning of my marriage, mind you, that I had (more…)



January 3, 2012

New Start, Clean Slate – What are You Going to do With Yours?

What ARE you going to do with yours? I know you are thinking about it now… with the best intentions….

I want to offer a few suggestions to think about in your mission to fix all of your wrongs by making a list of intentional rights.

New Year’s Resolutions:

#1 – Resolve yourself to having more fun!

#2 – Live a healthy, active lifestyle!

#3 – See something spectacular this year!

#4 – Feel something spectacular this year!

#5 – Live with passion and purpose!

#6 – Choose to be happy!

#7 – Choose to make this world a better place than it was when you got here!

There you have it. My suggestions for New Year’s resolutions, or should I say intentions. We start with the best intentions, and then as life unfolds, we forget them. But if we will embrace the lifestyle that incorporates these goals, we can’t help but be happier.

In reflecting back on what I did and learned last year, I am totally sold on living an adventure. You have to put yourself out there, though. You have to stretch beyond your comfort zone, and open yourself up to new experiences. And you’ve got to be cool with the unknown, which was challenging at times, to say the least.

But I see the world differently now. I see myself differently now. And I like it!

I have never been so open to what the Universe will offer me than I am now. I feel like I am blooming, unfolding before my very eyes. Who knew?

I guess I had suppressed my true self for so long, I forgot I was in there, burning, waiting to be set free. I think I was living in fear. Fear of losing what I thought I had, but really didn’t.

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December 4, 2011

Show Notes for Sass & Style

This is the perfect time in your life for tips on Sass & Style with Thea Wood, Signature Stylist.

Your Sass is your attitude, your attitude comes from your confidence, and your confidence speaks to the world through your personal style without one word being said!

People immediately think you are what they see. The image you project is your way of telling the world who you are and how you feel about yourself. If you believe it, they believe it!

Research shows that a stranger makes a judgement of you within the first three seconds of seeing you, without one word being spoken. Thea and I want to make sure you are sending the message you want to be judged by through your style. Your initial impression speaks volumes, so we are going to make sure you mean what you are saying through your Sass & Style.

Also, we all need to look in the mirror every so often and reevaluate our style, but especially when you are reinventing yourself after a divorce, or other traumatic event in your life. You need to change your style to match your new life. You aren’t the same person you were before. You have different goals, different values, a different body and a different message to send to the world, so you want to be sure the message you are sending is the same message that the world is receiving.

Finding your sass is just as important as finding your style. When you start rebuilding your confidence, you start empowering your attitude, which is your sass. Your attitude is based on your confidence, and your confidence exudes through your personal style. They go hand-in-hand.

Your personal style should be considered your branding – branding yourself to the world. And you want to be consistent in your branding. It is one of our most powerful and controllable assets.

An important consideration is to be true to yourself and who you really are. Be consistent in your actions and your message. People can see right through inconsistencies.

Thea is a Signature Stylist, which is someone who can help you identify your personal style based on your lifestyle, your body and your personality. To learn about her services, you can find her at www.theawood.com. That is where you can also access her style videos and follow her blog.

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November 29, 2011

Show Notes for Looking Your Best Without The Knife

November 18, 2011 we had Dr. Michael Gold with us. He is a board certified dermatologist and dermatological surgeon who talked about the different non-surgical procedures available that will tighten, brighten and repair your skin.

We started with the deep tissue treatment and worked our way toward the surface of the skin.

ENERGY BASE SYSTEMS:

Energy base systems are lasers, light sources and intense pulse light devises that provide the deeper treatments for the skin. These treatments help reverse the damage that has been done over the years. With all the new technologies available now, there is no need for surgery anymore.

Make sure you go to a doctor who has a good reputation. You want to only use doctors that are keeping up with the cutting edge techniques so that (more…)



November 17, 2011

Demi and Ashton Were Doomed

Filed under: Divorced Women — Christia @ 5:56 pm

Face it – there is such a thing as too much age difference. Demi and Ashton are the prime example, next to Anna Nicole Smith and what’s his name.

What do you expect when people are in two totally different phases of life? That’s not fair to ask of either person. The younger person is eventually feel held back, and the older person will be put in a position of doubting either themselves or their spouse. What sense does that make?

The craziness is we think we are different when it comes to love. “No one is like me.” “Once they have me, they won’t want anyone else.” Yada, yada, yada….

The reality is that if either spouse has a laps in integrity, that is all it takes. It won’t matter how wonderful you are. The fact is that if they do it once, they will do it again. And do not let them convince you otherwise. People have control over their choices. You can always say NO. And if you choose to say YES, then you are also choosing the consequences of that choice. Their behavior is in their control. And whether you choose to allow it or not is all in your control.

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November 16, 2011

Show Notes for Dating After Divorce Online

The dating world has grown with the times. It has gone from the simple meeting someone in the grocery store, to meeting online.

It was a logical progression, I guess. With the world being driven by the internet and social media, it makes sense that dating would be no different.

But if you have been out of the loop, as I have, chances are  you don’t quite know where and how to start.

So, we tried to come up with a general game plan for how to embark on this new adventure in dating for the most efficient and effective experience. And if you are as busy as I am, that is how you want it to be.

John Martinuk, with Millionairematch.com, and Robin Salzillo Campbell, a freelance writer who, in researching for an article, found love on John’s site, provide insight and words of wisdom for our quest.

A little on Millionairematch.com. The site’s statistics of users: 32% between 18-30 years of age, 45.5% of users are men, 54.5% are women, 33% are in 45-60 age range, 10-14% are verified millionaires, and 14% of members are verified as opposed to 86% unverified.

Robin Salzillo Campbell has been recently divorce, but had no interest in doing the bar scene to meet people. In her contemplating how she wanted to maneuver this new world of dating, she decided to write an article on the different options for dating after 50. Online dating was a natural choice, considering our world is so cyber and social media driven. Also, having lived in her current city for 30 years, she was interested in a site that could reach outside her part of the world.

Robin chose Millionairematch.com because it offered a wider demographic of successful minded people. It had an in depth questionnaire, provided safety features, was user friendly and catered to a higher caliber of client. She also chose it over a matchmaker because she felt that she was a good judge of character on her own. She didn’t want to be limited by the smaller client base and someone else’s opinion. Matchmakers work from their paid client base, which limits possibilities.

Here are some of the guidelines we came up with:

First you have to find the sites that you are comfortable with. Most sites let you look through there site free of charge. If not, you need to either ask friends if they have any experience on that site, or make sure that site represents the caliber of person you are interested in. John says that many people belong to multiple sites because of the different  types of people each site represents, and because it is really a numbers game. Your choice.

Also, it is good to know that many sites have a limited reach based on approximately a 250 mile range. So, you would have to set up multiple profiles if you wanted to extend the area considered. This means a profile for east coast, one for the west coast, one for your area, etc.

After picking your site/s, you have to decide if you want to be a paid member. John says that being a paid member is a more pro-active approach. Robin says that it allows you to tailor your preferences and who contacts you. She also like the ability to screen the contacts and have the safety feature of blocking.

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October 31, 2011

Show Notes for Feeling Your Best With Dr. Jonny Bowden

Filed under: Healthy Lifestyle for Women After Divorce,Radio Show Notes — Christia @ 12:00 pm

I have always been fascinated with the power of food. And last Friday I was lucky enough to have as my guest Dr. Jonny Bowden, the Rogue Nutritionist.

I have been following Dr. Jonny for years. He is so knowledgeable. He likes to call himself a research junkie, and I believe it. The information flows out of him like a fountain. He is amazing.

I had so many questions and so little time. But here is a brief rundown of what we were able to cover.

The connection Dr. Jonny and I have are our messages of mastering your health, body and personal power. Addictions are not the cause, they are symptoms. Whether it is food, drugs, alcohol or cigarettes, these are behaviors stemming form a much deeper cause that must be addressed for your success.

When you learn how to master your personal power, you can apply it to all other aspect of your life. But the symptoms can get out of hand when the source is not addressed.

Nutrition, what we put in our bodies, is the key to damage control and detoxification. It is the key to warding off aging and illness. Food is nature’s medicine.

Some of the random questions I asked were (more…)



October 22, 2011

The Most Selfish Woman in America Show Notes With Cindy Ratzlaff

Filed under: Divorced Women,Happiness After Divorce,Radio Show Notes — Christia @ 3:18 pm

I was lucky enough to have Cindy Ratzlaff, co-author of Queen of Your Own Life, as my guest yesterday on my talk show. Here’s the link in case you want to listen to it http://www.voiceamerica.com/show/1990/the-most-selfish-woman-in-america.

Queen of Your Own Life and The Most Selfish Woman in America are soul sisters in the literary world. These books share the message of empowerment and encouragement with a dose of humor on the side. Cindy, along with her best friend of 30 years Kathy Kinney, wrote Queen of Your Own Life as their call to action for grown up women everywhere to celebrate the second half of their life!

Our messages are so similar because women are more alike than different. We all share some of the same issues, no matter what our history or where we are in our journey in life. Cindy, having been a corporate executive, and I, having been a stay home Mom for 20 years, still face the same issues of any women in mid-life: self doubt, anxiety of getting older, questioning our self-worth.

This is a time in our life when our friendships are so important and need to be nurtured. Our friends can remind us of our gifts, talents and experiences that we loose sight of in times of stress. Which is what happened when one day Cindy lost her job to the downturn of the economy. Her supportive friend Kathy reminded her that the only thing that had changed from the day before is that Cindy had lost her job. Cindy was still the intelligent, fabulous, vibrant woman she was when she was yesterday when she was employed. She had not dumbed down overnight.

So the “Crowning Ceremony” was born. Cindy and Kathy started encouraging women to look in a mirror, admire themselves, and declare
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