Yeah, I know, it’s that time of year again. The time when it becomes blatantly obvious that we are not in a relationship.

For some reason, we think that it is a reflection of our attractiveness. That we don’t “got it” anymore. Well it’s NOT Sisters!

Listen! Just because you are “between men” does NOT mean you aren’t attractive! It means you are taking a breather! A sanity break! A SELFISH break!

Now… I love men just as much as the next gal, but when you’ve survived the trenches of divorce warfare, you need a break. You need to focus on yourself for a change.

It’s time to thank your lucky stars that you’ve been given another chance at happiness! You escaped the noose! Hallelujah!

I think that’s cause for celebration! And this Valentine’s Day, I am gathering all you divorced women out there together for a free party/teleseminar to do just that!

At 10am Pacific, noon Central, 1p Eastern we are going to all meet up on the telephone, and I’m going to share with you the 7 Steps For The Most SELFISH Valentines Day Ever!

First and foremost we are going to change the way we think about ourselves. We are going to have an Attitude Adjustment! We are going to get right back up on that pedestal where we belong! Then we are going to change the way we see our lives and approach our goals – romantic and otherwise.

We are basically going to take our power back where it belongs! Long Live the Power of the Woman!

All you have to do to join us is sign up here: http://www.themostselfishwomaninamerica.com/valentines-day-teleseminar/

And I would suggest that you just go ahead and plan a party with your single girlfriends for that night. And expect there to be spontaneous cheering goin’ on! I’m talking bonfires and donkeys!  I’ll give you the details on the call. Sign up now and I will send you the teleseminar particulars closer to the date.

But rest assure that it will be one of your favorite Valentine’s Days EVER!

So sign up and get ready!

Until then,

Happy Living!

Christia Sale

The Most SELFISH Woman in America!

Women’s Life-After-Divorce Expert

Your Sass is your attitude, your attitude comes from your confidence, and your confidence speaks to the world through your personal style without one word being said!

People immediately think you are what they see. The image you project is your way of telling the world who you are and how you feel about yourself. If you believe it, they believe it!

Research shows that a stranger makes a judgement of you within the first three seconds of seeing you, without one word being spoken. Thea and I want to make sure you are sending the message you want to be judged by through your style. Your initial impression speaks volumes, so we are going to make sure you mean what you are saying through your Sass & Style.

Also, we all need to look in the mirror every so often and reevaluate our style, but especially when you are reinventing yourself after a divorce, or other traumatic event in your life. You need to change your style to match your new life. You aren’t the same person you were before. You have different goals, different values, a different body and a different message to send to the world, so you want to be sure the message you are sending is the same message that the world is receiving.

Finding your sass is just as important as finding your style. When you start rebuilding your confidence, you start empowering your attitude, which is your sass. Your attitude is based on your confidence, and your confidence exudes through your personal style. They go hand-in-hand.

Your personal style should be considered your branding – branding yourself to the world. And you want to be consistent in your branding. It is one of our most powerful and controllable assets.

An important consideration is to be true to yourself and who you really are. Be consistent in your actions and your message. People can see right through inconsistencies.

Thea is a Signature Stylist, which is someone who can help you identify your personal style based on your lifestyle, your body and your personality. To learn about her services, you can find her at www.theawood.com. That is where you can also access her style videos and follow her blog.

If you don’t have access to a Signature Stylist, Thea recommends that you make a list of your strengths. Use three adjectives that describe you and three adjectives that you want the world to think when they see you. Then when you are shopping, ask yourself if this garment or outfit stays consistent with your message. Does it represent one or all of the adjectives you have chosen?

Maintaining consistency throughout your day can be challenging, but this is where your hair style and color, and the colors you choose to wear are important. You need to have a hair cut that compliments your features, not fits the latest style craze. The color of your hair and your clothing are equally important, both being complimentary to your skin tone and body shape.

Thea considers posture the most underrated asset we possess. The way we carry ourselves reveals our confidence, and our confidence comes through in our Sass & Style. Something as simple as consciously keeping your shoulders down and back can make a huge difference in your first impression. Open up your chest, pull your shoulder blades together, roll your shoulders back and down, and hold in your stomach. This is the easiest way to add inches to your height , elongate your look, and add confidence to your look.

And speaking of posture, it is one of Thea’s body language techniques, along with smiling and “smizing.” Smiling lets people know that we are open and approachable. Smizing, a term started by Tyra Banks, refers to smiling with your eyes. It makes you look warm, happy and approachable, which is big for attracting men. This makes men less fearful of being turned down, which apparently is one of their biggest concerns… in case you were interested.

As for clothing, there are a few general guidelines for flattering styles:

1) V-necks are flattering for most body types, but especially if you are large chested; most other necklines make you look like your chest is at your waist, and we can’t have that!

2) A good fitting bra is paramount to your overall silhouette; if you have not been professionally fitted for a bra in the last six months, or ever, you need to; bras only last six months before they start to loose their shape, which means you loose your shape, and again, we can’t have that! It may cost more, but your look depends on it!

3) To compensate for a thicker torso, which is a fact of life we will all have to deal with sooner or later, use color blocking to camouflage a thick middle; darker colors on the top, lighter colors on the bottom, and never let your clothes be tight.

To minimize your waistline, wearing a dark colored belt over a dark top, under a jacket, gives the illusion of a smaller waistline.

When talking neutral colors, black isn’t always best. There are not too many people with whom black looks good next to their faces. Black is too harsh. It takes high contrasting, stark features for black to look good against the face. Black was originally the color for mourning, and the little black dress was created by Coco Chanel when she was mourning the loss of her lover. It caught on and the rest is history, but that doesn’t mean that it looks good on everyone. It can just as easily make you look washed out, so beware.

Your best bet for neutrals are browns, grays, khaki or stone. Most people can find a brown that looks good on them, and grays are more for older people as their natural coloring fades. Keep this in mind when buying your neutrals.

Speaking of our color fading with age, Mother Nature cools our overall coloring, so we need to be less intense with the colors we add to our look. As we age, darker colors wash us out. So, no more darker hair color because you don’t want to look your age. Softer colors will make you look younger.

Thea’s Ten Shopping Tips:

1. Look in your closest, decide what you need, make a list, and then stick to the list! This keeps you focused, productive and probably saves you money!

2. Wear comfortable shoes and clothes when shopping; makes for easier on and off; that doesn’t mean sloppy; look good when you shop – it sets the tone for the experience;

3. Fit matters – size doesn’t; sizes vary between designer and the countries the clothes are make in, so don’t get stuck on a certain size, just get what fits you best; you can always have it altered to fit perfectly; just cut out the tags and never think about it again; fit is the most important thing;

4. Budget for alterations and get them done immediately; drop them off on your way home, and the clothes will be available to wear sooner;

5. Three items where money is no object:

1) A good fitting bra – there is no substitute!

2) Jeans that work on your body

3) A swimsuit that looks good on your body type; this can be difficult to find, so buy it, love it, strut it!

6. Fashion is fleeting, style is eternal; don’t fall for the “must haves”, you “must” stick with your style and what looks good on you, not what looks good in the magazines;

7. Light colors project, dark colors recede; use them to create balance in your look;

8. Use color to enhance your natural features;

9. Dressing monochromatically can make you look longer and leaner;

10. Use accessories to modernize or update your style.

OK, last two questions:

1) How to look like a movie star: statement earrings, posture and smile!

2) How to attract a man without saying a word: smize (smiling w/ your eyes), wear red (men are attracted to red), wear whites (the old white t-shirt and jeans attraction, the white seeming more pure and feminine) and over accessorizing makes them think you are high maintenance.

So now you know! If we haven’t covered all of your questions, look for a Signature Stylist in your area. It, and you, are worth it!

Until next time,

GET SELFISH! BE SELFISH! CHEERS!

Christia Sale

The Most SELFISH Woman in America!

Women’s Life-After-Divorce Expert