• I forgave myself for the failure of my marriage.
• I released the power that my past had over me.
• I searched my soul for my purpose and passion.
• I listened honestly to the answers.
• I reconnected with the power of the Universe.
• I found my inner peace.
• I visualized my Dream Life, and made it my reality.

That’s why people call me the leading Women’s Life-After-Divorce Expert.

I’ve reached midlife, and I have children who are sprouting their wings. But what I have to teach you comes from what I learned from surviving a rough marriage and an even rougher divorce.

It was HELL!

But I’m through it now. Done with Hell! And I’m here to tell you that you do not have to be miserable anymore!

Is This Your Life’s Story, Too?

I was raised in an environment where family was the most important thing. So it was sad when I realized, at the beginning of my marriage, mind you, that I had made a big mistake. But by then I was already pregnant. I was also raised to believe that I should do everything possible to make a marriage work when there were children involved. So, I thought that if I tried hard enough, he would come around and realize how lucky he was to have a loving family. But he wasn’t used to that dynamic. Can you say dysfunctional childhood? I thought that I could “love” him to health. What was I thinking? I didn’t know any better. (I’m a hopeless romantic.)

How similar is this story to your story? Amazing, right?

I got so caught up in trying to make my marriage work that I totally lost myself in the process. Then I finally realized that nothing was going to save the relationship that I spent 17 years giving CPR to.

I woke up one morning and had an epiphany. “Screw this! Life is too short to be so unhappy. I don’t deserve to be treated this way. No one does! I am SO out of here!”

And that was all I needed. I was done. I was finished putting an egocentric, passive-aggressive (stop me now before I really get started!) husband’s needs above my own, and I was tired of living in a one-sided relationship. The thought of staying in this situation for the rest of my life made my skin crawl. My time here was over! I deserved better!

It was my turn, dammit!

Don’t get me wrong, it took me a while to mourn the loss of the dream of a happy marriage, to lick my emotional wounds, and get my feet back under me. It doesn’t matter who instigates divorce, it is still traumatic to all involved. Don’t kid yourself that someone else’s divorce was easier than yours. That would be rare. Divorce is painful for all of us in one way or another.

We all have to go through the mourning process. But during my journey of recovery, I discovered what I call the Seven SELFISH Steps for a positive reinvention after divorce. When sharing these revelations with my friends, they encouraged me to write them down and share them with other women in need.

And that’s when they started calling me their “Life-After-Divorce Expert.”

Then the real me came back out to play. One day at lunch with a girlfriend, she commented on how happy I seemed to be, especially considering what I was going through. I thought about it, and she was right. She asked me if I had found a lover or something.

I was shocked!

But the reality was that I was finding my “self” again. I was reacquainting myself with my personal power and potential. I was coming back to life. My friend thought that if I had found the “magic pill” for recovering from divorce, it was my obligation to share with the rest of our “sisters” what I had learned. From that point on, friends started recommending me to their friends and family who were in need of guidance after divorce.

So there you have it. Through my own positive recovery and reinvention, I became the leading Women’s Life-After-Divorce Expert. I became The Most SELFISH Woman in America!

It’s YOUR Turn

Now my goal, besides living the life of my dreams, is to share with others how to do the same. YOU do not have to be miserable and unhappy anymore! With these Seven SELFISH Steps, you too can release the pain of your past, and live the life you always dream of living. Be the person you always dreamed of being.

You cannot escape the mourning process, but you can make your divorce the best thing that ever happened to you. For whatever reason, you have been given a second chance to live the life of your dreams. Don’t waste it!

I will show you how to do just that. I will teach you how to release your past and the power it has over you, and identify your life’s purpose. With that knowledge, you can dictate your future, and realize that is all in your control.

You will also learn that your happiness is a choice, not a result of your circumstances. That may be one of the most powerful lesson you will learn from me. One of my gifts to you.

Your happiness is far too important to waste time reinventing the wheel. Let me guide you to becoming a SELFISH Woman so that you are not losing valuable time in your life being miserable.

Yes, the reason we are here is sad, but you will survive this, and end up with your best life yet if you follow my Seven SELFISH Steps for a positive reinvention. And why be sadder than you have to be? Why be more miserable than you have to be, for longer than you have to be? Stop the madness!

Let me, Christia Sale, The Most SELFISH Woman in America, and the leading Women’s Life-After-Divorce Expert, shorten your recovery, help you find your life’s purpose, and make your Dream Life your reality!

And all you have to do to start is to read my book The Most SELFISH Woman in America – How to Make Your Divorce the Best Thing That Ever Happened to You!

Available here on this website on the Shop page, Amazon.com and barnesandnoble.com.

I want to offer a few suggestions to think about in your mission to fix all of your wrongs by making a list of intentional rights.

New Year’s Resolutions:

#1 – Resolve yourself to having more fun!

#2 – Live a healthy, active lifestyle!

#3 – See something spectacular this year!

#4 – Feel something spectacular this year!

#5 – Live with passion and purpose!

#6 – Choose to be happy!

#7 – Choose to make this world a better place than it was when you got here!

There you have it. My suggestions for New Year’s resolutions, or should I say intentions. We start with the best intentions, and then as life unfolds, we forget them. But if we will embrace the lifestyle that incorporates these goals, we can’t help but be happier.

In reflecting back on what I did and learned last year, I am totally sold on living an adventure. You have to put yourself out there, though. You have to stretch beyond your comfort zone, and open yourself up to new experiences. And you’ve got to be cool with the unknown, which was challenging at times, to say the least.

But I see the world differently now. I see myself differently now. And I like it!

I have never been so open to what the Universe will offer me than I am now. I feel like I am blooming, unfolding before my very eyes. Who knew?

I guess I had suppressed my true self for so long, I forgot I was in there, burning, waiting to be set free. I think I was living in fear. Fear of losing what I thought I had, but really didn’t.

I have a whole different attitude about my self and my life. I will never see myself the same way again. Thank You God!

And now it is YOUR turn! It is your turn to reassess how you are living your life. It is your turn to redirect your choices toward living with passion and purpose. It is your turn to find that passion and purpose!

How exciting is that? To get a new chance to live up to your potential! To live with passion and purpose! And only YOU can make that happen.

My challenge for you is to search your soul, ask yourself the following questions, and then to listen to your answers – honestly:

- “Is this how I want to live the next half of my life?”

- “Do I have a passion and purpose in my work, and is it fulfilling?”

- “Am I using my gifts and talents?”

- “Is my life having a positive impact on this world?”

- “Am I living my Dream Life?”

- “Am I happy?”

There will never be a better time to be true to your passion and purpose than now. What are you waiting for?

Really – What are you waiting for???

May your New Year and your dreams come together as one healthy, happy life. This is my wish for you.

Happy New Year Everybody! And until next time,

GET SELFISH! BE SELFISH!  CHEERS!

Christia Sale

The Most SELFISH Woman in America!

Women’s Life-After-Divorce Expert

We started with the deep tissue treatment and worked our way toward the surface of the skin.

ENERGY BASE SYSTEMS:

Energy base systems are lasers, light sources and intense pulse light devises that provide the deeper treatments for the skin. These treatments help reverse the damage that has been done over the years. With all the new technologies available now, there is no need for surgery anymore.

Make sure you go to a doctor who has a good reputation. You want to only use doctors that are keeping up with the cutting edge techniques so that you know they are staying abreast of the newest procedures available.

Fractional therapy is perfect for sagging skin around the eyes, jowls and neck. It can be in ultrasound form or fractional radio frequencies. The energy penetrates about 4 millimeters under the skin, which is best for skin tightening. Fractional therapy sends heated light source through the skin in the form of minute holes, which trigger the body to fill in those holes with collagen naturally, building the skin back up and filling in wrinkles.

Of the fractional therapies, the Ulthera therapy, which is the ultrasound form, is a one time procedure with some pain and very little downtime. Done in office without issues. The tightening effect happens over 3 weeks to 6 months. Since the treatment is very deep into the skin, it bypasses the surface of the skin. There is no redness on the surface by the next day, so there is no real downtime, and no after procedure care.

The Ematrix fractionated radio frequency, depending on how deeply it is done, will have down time anywhere from 2-4 hours to 2 days. Redness and possible crusting on the skin can be expected. This one could need a few to several treatments to get to the desired results.

Best ways to tighten skin around the eyes and on the neck – fractional treatments.

TOXINS & FILLERS:

Botox is probably one of the safest wrinkle treatment. The only side effects are due to not being applied properly, i.e. using too much or putting in the wrong place. You need to make sure that whomever is applying the Botox has knowledge of anatomy to ensure proper application.

Botox is best for the furrows between the eyes and around the mouth.

There are three different products that do the same thing as Botox, and they are all about the same if effectiveness. It should last 3-4 months, but the effects may take up to 7 days to kick in.

Fillers: Restylane, Juvederm, Radiesse, Sculpture are the available products. Used for around to mouth, in the cheeks, in the lips, and last for up to 9 months. The Sculpture and Radiesse are best for the cheeks, and the Juvederm and Restylane are better for your lips and round the mouth.

Side effects of fillers are swelling and redness, depending on how much is injected.

For the lips, adding reasonable volume is the key, not balloon lips. Fillers are better than implants because there are not permanent.

Your body should absorb the filler at the same rate so that you have consistent “deflating” of the lips. But most people will not let their lips get to that point, if they liked the results in the first place.

These different therapies can be used in combination for an overall desired result.

Peels: Good for topical surface cleaning, but not as prevalent anymore. Skin care products can be more effective than peels.

Keeping stress down, not smoking and eating healthy are the most important basics to keeping your face and skin looking their best for as long as possible.

Laser hair removal is good for all areas of the body and face.

PRODUCTS:

Soap: Over the counter – Cetaphil; CeraVe – soapless cleansers

Moisturizer:

Over the counter – CeraVe; Olay

Dr. office – Neocutis moisturizer – Biocreme – Swiss products, growth factors, reverse damage, used to heal skin after procedures; Obagi

Eyes:

Over the counter – Olay ; Dr. office – Obagi

Dr. office – Neocutis Lumiere Eye Cream

Eye puffiness – Neocutis Lumiere Eye Cream, Obagi Lastoderm,

Skin Bleaching – Neocutis Blanch & Pearl – incredible

Skin Redness – Neocutis Peche

So there you have it! I hope this gives you some things to think about when it comes to looking your best without the knife.

Everything else in your life is being renewed, why not your looks too?

Until next time,

GET SELFISH! BE SELFISH!

Christia Sale

The Most SELFISH Woman in America!

Woman’s Life-After-Divorce Expert

PS: Let me know if you liked the topic for this show. Also let me know if these notes were helpful by leaving me a message. I promise I will read all of them!

Cheers!

What do you expect when people are in two totally different phases of life? That’s not fair to ask of either person. The younger person is eventually feel held back, and the older person will be put in a position of doubting either themselves or their spouse. What sense does that make?

The craziness is we think we are different when it comes to love. “No one is like me.” “Once they have me, they won’t want anyone else.” Yada, yada, yada….

The reality is that if either spouse has a laps in integrity, that is all it takes. It won’t matter how wonderful you are. The fact is that if they do it once, they will do it again. And do not let them convince you otherwise. People have control over their choices. You can always say NO. And if you choose to say YES, then you are also choosing the consequences of that choice. Their behavior is in their control. And whether you choose to allow it or not is all in your control.

So here we have another case of a spouse “wondering” shall we say, and the wife is left dealing with the pain, not to mention embarrassment, in public. Not only was she betrayed by her husband, but she was also punished for his behavior by having to deal with it in the public eye.

Here are three ways of possibly avoiding this whole fiasco:

1) Date someone in the same phase of life as you. This is paramount if you want to eventually get married.

2) Date them for at least 2 years. If you are in mid-life, it’s not like you are in the procreating phase. What’s the hurry!

3) If you are dating someone who has been divorced, make sure you know why. This is very telling of what you can expect. Be realistic.

At this age, common sense rules. The heart should be heard, but reason should prevail, because you have seen all too often what can happen. Divorce gets easier the more you do it. And remember, you don’t have to get married to prove your love.

The bottom line: enjoy life, live it to the fullest, just don’t marry the young one, because you will get older one day….

Until the next celeb gets divorced,

GET SELFISH! BE SELFISH! CHEERS!

Christia Sale

The Most Selfish Woman in America!

PS: Let me know what you think of this whole situation. Leave me a comment.

Also, don’t forget to check out my radio talk show here: http://www.voiceamerica.com/show/1990/the-most-selfish-woman-in-america

It was a logical progression, I guess. With the world being driven by the internet and social media, it makes sense that dating would be no different.

But if you have been out of the loop, as I have, chances are  you don’t quite know where and how to start.

So, we tried to come up with a general game plan for how to embark on this new adventure in dating for the most efficient and effective experience. And if you are as busy as I am, that is how you want it to be.

John Martinuk, with Millionairematch.com, and Robin Salzillo Campbell, a freelance writer who, in researching for an article, found love on John’s site, provide insight and words of wisdom for our quest.

A little on Millionairematch.com. The site’s statistics of users: 32% between 18-30 years of age, 45.5% of users are men, 54.5% are women, 33% are in 45-60 age range, 10-14% are verified millionaires, and 14% of members are verified as opposed to 86% unverified.

Robin Salzillo Campbell has been recently divorce, but had no interest in doing the bar scene to meet people. In her contemplating how she wanted to maneuver this new world of dating, she decided to write an article on the different options for dating after 50. Online dating was a natural choice, considering our world is so cyber and social media driven. Also, having lived in her current city for 30 years, she was interested in a site that could reach outside her part of the world.

Robin chose Millionairematch.com because it offered a wider demographic of successful minded people. It had an in depth questionnaire, provided safety features, was user friendly and catered to a higher caliber of client. She also chose it over a matchmaker because she felt that she was a good judge of character on her own. She didn’t want to be limited by the smaller client base and someone else’s opinion. Matchmakers work from their paid client base, which limits possibilities.

Here are some of the guidelines we came up with:

First you have to find the sites that you are comfortable with. Most sites let you look through there site free of charge. If not, you need to either ask friends if they have any experience on that site, or make sure that site represents the caliber of person you are interested in. John says that many people belong to multiple sites because of the different  types of people each site represents, and because it is really a numbers game. Your choice.

Also, it is good to know that many sites have a limited reach based on approximately a 250 mile range. So, you would have to set up multiple profiles if you wanted to extend the area considered. This means a profile for east coast, one for the west coast, one for your area, etc.

After picking your site/s, you have to decide if you want to be a paid member. John says that being a paid member is a more pro-active approach. Robin says that it allows you to tailor your preferences and who contacts you. She also like the ability to screen the contacts and have the safety feature of blocking.

Next is writing a successful profile. John and Robin both agree that honesty is the most important ingredient. You don’t want to base who contacts you on a lie. You waste your time and theirs. We are looking for efficiency, remember?

Robin suggests being proactive. Reading a lot of profiles, contact people, use the site’s support features. Being proactive means interact with the site. Use it. Engage in the forums, respond to those who show interest in you. Also, the more profiles you read, the better you will get at  your own profile and can tweak it as you go.

That doesn’t mean you have to pretend that you like the people who contact you when you don’t. Always go with your gut on that. But it does mean don’t just put up your profile and be done with it. Look through the searches, add ones you like to your favorites, wink if you want. That creates more energy around you on the site and you will get better results.

John says that “add to your favorites” is like a place holder. You may have been looking through the searches and found someone interesting, but didn’t have time to pursue it right then, or might not know exactly what to do from there. Also, a wink shows interest, but is almost like not being sure if that person will like you or not. Sounds too insecure to me, but that’s me.

Robin thinks that adding someone to your favorites is a nice way of saying you are interested. If nothing happens either way in a week or two, move on to a new list of favorites.

The top things you should find out about a person to be your most efficient:

• their belief system, spirituality
• there grasp on politics, if that is important to you
• what they do for fun
• how they feel about family
• what do they see themselves doing in the next 5 years, 10 years
• where do they see themselves living out the rest of their life after they retire
• add what’s important to you here…

Queen of Your Own Life and The Most Selfish Woman in America are soul sisters in the literary world. These books share the message of empowerment and encouragement with a dose of humor on the side. Cindy, along with her best friend of 30 years Kathy Kinney, wrote Queen of Your Own Life as their call to action for grown up women everywhere to celebrate the second half of their life!

Our messages are so similar because women are more alike than different. We all share some of the same issues, no matter what our history or where we are in our journey in life. Cindy, having been a corporate executive, and I, having been a stay home Mom for 20 years, still face the same issues of any women in mid-life: self doubt, anxiety of getting older, questioning our self-worth.

This is a time in our life when our friendships are so important and need to be nurtured. Our friends can remind us of our gifts, talents and experiences that we loose sight of in times of stress. Which is what happened when one day Cindy lost her job to the downturn of the economy. Her supportive friend Kathy reminded her that the only thing that had changed from the day before is that Cindy had lost her job. Cindy was still the intelligent, fabulous, vibrant woman she was when she was yesterday when she was employed. She had not dumbed down overnight.

So the “Crowning Ceremony” was born. Cindy and Kathy started encouraging women to look in a mirror, admire themselves, and declare
that they would be the Queen of Their Own Lives! And part of this ceremony includes asking yourself two questions: 1) What has worked for you so far in your life that you want to take forward with you into this new phase, and 2) What do you want to leave behind that no longer works for you.

It is easier to come up with a nice long list for question #2, but more challenging to come up with a list for question #1. The problem being that we are less comfortable speaking highly of ourselves, possibly due to the way we were raised. Good girls don’t brag – that is arrogant and egotistical.

Well Ladies, stop thinking that way! Stop that right now!

It is time for you to get comfortable admiring yourself. Give yourself credit for the gifts you have been given. Appreciate how lucky you are to have gotten this far, with all the wisdoms, knowledge and insight that makes you who  you are today. This is why the “Crowning Ceremony” is so important. It allows you to say outloud what you like about yourself. Get comfortable with it!

We also talked about the power of words and the importance of friends who use words to remind us of our gifts. This helps us adjust to the changes that come into our lives. And with those changes comes choice – the choice of how you are going to respond to that change. We can’t control what other people do, or how things happen, but we can control how we choose to respond.

Bad things happen to good people. Bad things happen to everybody. But it’s how you choose to respond that dictates the outcome. You can choose to whine and pout, perpetuating the negative, OR you can choose to respond in a positive way and make the best of the situation.

Cindy shared her travel adventure that took a nosedive, but she was able to salvage by the way she chose to respond to the situation. Instead of being mad as hell, she chose to be the light and delight for herself and everyone around her. Not only did she prevent an ulcer, she met some very interesting people and enjoyed herself in the meantime.

You have to be aware of the exponential effect you have on everyone whose life you touch. We have to BE what we want to SEE in others. We have to be the change that we want to see.

In the book, Cindy and Kathy offer the 7 best gifts that a woman can give herself and here they are:

• Claim their beauty and feel their power
• Clean their mental closet and find their Queen voice
• Admire themselves for who they have become
• Build deep, fulfilling friendships with other women
• Establish firm boundaries that will strengthen all their relationships
• Learn the simple trick to finally being happy
• Place the crown firmly on their heads

It was fantastic! I love it! Great fun!

I want to share the experience with you, so I am providing you with a brief rundown of what was on the show.

My guest was Laura Fenamore, founder of www.OnePinky.com. Laura is a woman with an amazing story, and has turned her life experience into a mission to guide women to love what they see in the mirror. Her popular Body Image Mastery program helps women lose weight, reclaim their self-esteem, and start living bold, happy lives.

Laura’s having overcome her own battle with addiction, obesity, and eating disorders, she released 100 pounds 24 years ago and began a journey of guiding other women to live more joyous, balanced lives.

We talked about:

* Taking responsibility for your own happiness and your future, no longer being a victim; taking control of your health and your body

* How fear is a crippler – it can stop people from making major change in their marriages, their jobs, with their bodies, and how fear is self-imposed

* You have to release the old, negative tapes from your past and make new, positive ones though your thoughts and environmental input

-Being around positive people, not negative ones, which is sometimes challenging

-Saying positive things about yourself, not self-deprecating things

-Exposing yourself to motivational and inspirational input, not negative media sensationalism

* How society perceives over weight people, especially the way the media tells us that we are not good enough if we are not bone thin, and others buy into that thinking, perpetuating the madness

* The importance of acknowledging that feelings are self-imposed; no one can make you feel anything; only you can accept those feeling that you are going to feel, and once you realize that, you become empowered and in control of your happiness.

* Participating in the negative perpetuates the negative, and that is what you are trying to get away from. Don’t participate!

Laura also covered some tips for surviving the holidays and staying in control. Consider what your goal is for the party. Is it a culinary experience or a social experience? Will you feel guilty for what you ate, or happy with the people you interacted with? Are you going to be a victim of the “food pushers”, or “drink pushers” for that matter, or are you going to say no thanks and just enjoy being there. You don’t need food to enjoy yourself!

So there are a few of the things we discussed yesterday. And if you would like to hear the show in it’s entirety, log on to http://www.voiceamerica.com/episode/56900/the-new-you-with-laura-fenamore and click on “listen now.”

And don’t forget to go to www.OnePinky.com and check out what Laura’s successful programs are all about, and how you can change your life forever!

Join me next week when I chat with Cindy Ratzlaff, co-author of Queen of Your Own Life, which she wrote with actress and comedian Kathy Kinney. Their message is an empowering and humorous approach to life.

Tune in next week! It will be fun!

Until then,

Get Selfish – Be Selfish!

Christia Sale

The Most Selfish Woman in America!

P.S. Let me know what you think about the show topic. And I am always interested in what you want to hear discussed on the show. Just leave me a comment and we will chat.

Cheers!

Wow! How great is this? I released my negative past and the power it had over me. I opened myself up to the positive possibilities of my future. And sure enough, something incredible happens.

As you know, I published my first book in March of this year, available on the Shop page. Through taking my own advice, I started traveling and exploring the world. Besides having an adventure of a lifetime, I also came alive again.

It is a cycle. The more alive I feel, the more open I am to the power of the Universe. The more open I am to the Universe, the more positive things happen to me. The happier my thoughts, the happier I am. And when I chose positive thoughts, I get positive results on a daily basis. Now how great is that?

Back to the cool thing that happened… I get a call from VoiceAmerica Talk Radio, the largest internet radio station in the country. They want me to do a talk show based on my book The Most Selfish Woman in America – How to Make Your Divorce the Best Thing That Ever Happened to You!

Now, I know I want a successful, fulfilling career that benefits others and brings wealth and abundance, but I never thought of a talk show. Yes, I can talk – really talk. To anything that will sit still long enough. I just was not specific on how I was going to get it. I just visualized that my ultimate goal is to be happy.

So, as of October 14, 2011, on Friday afternoons from 2:00 – 3:00 pm PST, 5:00 – 6:00 pm EST I am going to have a live talk show on www.VoiceAmerica.com. The show is called The Most Selfish Woman In America – How to Make Your Dream Life Your Reality. You can find it at http://www.voiceamerica.com/show/1990/the-most-selfish-woman-in-america.  We are going to talk about how you do not have to be miserable anymore! It is time for you to take control of your future and your happiness. It is time to become the leading lady in your own life!

I can not emphasize enough how important it is to choose your thoughts wisely. Since thoughts become things and what you focus on expands, you choose how your life is going to turn out, and how today is going to turn out. You have control of your outcome. Start using that power to your advantage. When you realize your personal power, you are already ahead of the game. You already have an advantage over the others around you. You are functioning from a higher level of awareness.

Simply put, if you think negative thoughts you bring negativity into your life. If you think positive thoughts you bring positive things into you life. It is your choice. Some people thrive on negativity. They like to stir up trouble, get in other people’s business, make a drama out of everything. Then there are the rest of us who choose to see the positive side of life, choose not to participate in the negative, and choose to be happy. Because we can!

You will feel like a different person once you have tapped into your happiness. Because isn’t that the ultimate goal anyway? To be happy? Everything you strive for and desire is because of the way it makes you feel. Happy.

See it! Live it! Be it! This applies to happiness as well as to your Dream Life. And all of these things tie together to bring you the positive reinvention you seek. The Dream Life you seek. The happiness you seek.

I am not the only one out there who has learned to tap into the power of the Universe. Anyone who is successful and happy gets it. You can get it.

If you need guidance, click on the Shop page, buy the book and learn how to tap into your vibrant, vivacious, dynamic self and make your Dream Life your reality.

This too can happen to you. Learn to open yourself up to the possibilities of the Universe. Choose to be happy. It is all in your control.

So, until we meet again,

GET SELFISH ! BE SELFISH!

Christia Sale

The Most Selfish Woman in America!

I want you to ask yourself a question. “Is this how I want to live the rest of my life?” OK, two questions. “Is this all there is?”

If your answer is “I don’t THINK so!”, then it is time to take a good, long look at your life, where you are right now. Are you living the life you have always dreamed of living? Are you crazy happy with who you are now and the life you have created for yourself?

Not to worry. I am here to guide you. It is not too late to make your Dream Life your reality, and I will show you how. Due to multiple requests, I am now offering personal consultations for guiding you out of the darkness of misery and into your bright, happy future. (Check on the Shop page for details.)

You still have the whole second half of your life to be as happy as possible. If your current circumstances do not live up to your dreams, change them.

If you have lived through the chaos that came from divorce, or any other traumatic event, your life is either going through major change now or has in the recent past. And you can dictate how those changes will form your future. Since your life is in upheaval anyway, why not make the outcome the Dream Life you have always envisioned for yourself? It is in your control, and the sooner you embrace that fact, the happier you will be with the new life you create for yourself.

You can choose to either replace your old life with a similar, stagnate existence, or you can fuel your change to produce a healthier, happier, more dynamic life. You can settle for the familiar, or you can have the courage reach for the stars.  I vote for the stars, but it is your choice.

Repeat after me: “Life is too short to be miserable! ” I’ll wait here for you to say it again….

Be glad that you have been given a second chance at happiness! Do not waist it! It is your time to shine. It is your turn!

Like I always say,” You can make your divorce be the best thing that ever happened to you!

Happy Living!

Christia Sale

The Most Selfish Woman in America!

It’s time to be BRAVE!

It is time for you to step out of your comfort zone, and do something new and daring and challenging! It’s time for you to push your boundaries and open yourself up to what life has to offer. It’s Your Turn!

I just returned from another stint in France only this time I did something I have never done before: I went to spend time with a man I met when I was there in March. What was I thinking?

You can’t do that. You don’t do that. You don’t up-and-go to a country where you barely speak the language to see a man you rented a gite from and knew for a mere eight days before flying half way across the world for a three-week rendezvous.

No idea what possessed me, but I did it anyway! I gathered up the courage, threw all caution to the wind, and went with my gut.

And it was one of the best decisions I have ever made.

In a completely different world, surrounded by a language I couldn’t speak, by nature that took my breath away, and by a man that did the same.

Had I thought about the decision very hard, I would have talked myself out of it. But instead, I felt brave, trusted my intuition, and let myself go, literally! And had three of the best weeks of my life!

I would have never had the courage to do that in my old life. I would have made 101 excuses for not going: “He could be a serial killer!” “He could be Norman Bates!” “He could snore!”

But he wasn’t any of those things. He was one of the most selfless, generous and passionate people I have ever had the privilege of meeting. And I would have totally missed out on the experience had I been my old self.  Now I know what I have been missing all this time. No judgement, no conditions; just total acceptance.

That is how it should be. Who knew? There is a small group of lucky people who have experienced this first hand and then there are the rest of us who dream of it….

Putting yourself first, being happy and enjoying every step of your journey are daily goals. It takes courage and bravery to accomplish these goals. And each one of these steps will get you closer to your Dream Life. And isn’t that what this is all about? Being happy and living your Dream Life?

It is out there ladies! You just need the courage to open yourself up to it. Be brave and go with your gut!

If it can happen to me – it can happen to you!

Happy Living!

Christia Sale

The Most Selfish Woman in America!