What Is Your Passion?

No, I don’t mean your “50 Shades of Gray” passion. I mean your life passion.

What is it now? Do you even know? Have you given any thought to how your passions and purpose have changed over the years. Because it changes with each phase of life.

When you have experienced something like divorce, your passions and purpose naturally change. As your life evolves, so do the things that are important to your happiness.

Now is the time to reevaluate what your current passions and purpose are, and a good way to do that is to take The Passion Test, created by Janet Bray Attwood and Chris Attwood.

I use this test in my workshops to help people identify what they love most and what is most important to their happiness.

The interesting thing is that when we realize how our passions have changed, we’re surprised. We aren’t aware that what we think is important changes as we experience life. This is a good exercise to do every six months to a year. You will be amazed.

When you are changing your life path, clarity in your [Read more…]

7 Steps to Happiness After Divorce Workshop

Hello there, soon to be lovers of life.

A quick note about what’s on the calendar. If you are in the Austin area, I am giving a positive recovery and reinvention workshop at Unity Church of the Hills, 9905 Anderson Mill, Austin, TX 78750.

The workshop, titled 7 Steps to Happiness After Divorce, will be a seven week series starting October 2, 2012 and running through November 13, 2012. It will be every Tuesday night from 7:00 – 9:00pm for seven consecutive weeks. The cost will be $120 for the course, which includes one free class, or $20 per class. We will be using my book as a study guide, which will be available in class for $12, personalized and autographed.

Each class will be packed with easy, effective and proven steps to my positive recovery after divorce system. And before we are through, you will possess the tools needed for creating your best life yet. You will also be given action steps that will guarantee your transformational success. If you participate, you will be successful.

You can sign up at http://www.unityhills.org/events.htm#7steps ,which is preferable, or you can pay at the door.

I want to share this opportunity with you because you have been so kind to be apart of my world and my journey. I also know that this workshop will never be [Read more…]

Stop Holding A Grudge!


Ok – you are finally free from the ugly marriage you were in. You have released yourself from the physical obligation of that marriage. You have released yourself from the legal obligation of that marriage.

But have you released yourself from the emotional obligation? Have you forgiven yourself for your part in it and released it to the Universe?

Good question. And a question that deserves an honest answer – from YOU.

You can say that you are over it all day long, but are you really?

Can you tell that old story without getting all worked up again? Can you honestly say that you have let go of your resentment for the way you were treated in this whole thing? Do you really feel like you have made peace with the past and your part in it?

It’s time to Stop Holding A Grudge! 

It’s time to release the past and the power it has over you.

As long as you breathe life into that old story by retelling it and talking about it, the longer it will have power over you. Because the only one that suffers is you! (And your kids if you have any.)

When I say “power” I mean the effect it has on your emotions; the effect it has on your decision making. And how talking about that time in your life can bring back those painful feelings that you so desperately want to escape from.

But how can you escape from those feelings if you continue to bring them back into your existence? And you are doing it to yourself! Stop it!


“You don’t drown by falling in water. You drown by staying there.” ~ Unknown.


Yes, you have to mourn the loss of the “dream” of a happy marriage. It is part of the healing process and it is healthy. But continuing to use that story as an excuse for why you are not happy now is a cop-out.

You are essentially floundering in the past and letting it define you.

Your divorce does not define you – YOU define you!

If you’ve read my book , you know that how you choose to respond to your divorce dictates how this is going to turn out. You can wallow in self-pity, not changing the circumstances and prolonging your misery, or you can choose to make the most of this new chance at happiness.


“Let go. Why do you cling to pain? There is nothing you can do
about the wrongs of yesterday. It is not yours to judge. Why
hold on to the very thing which keeps you from hope and love?”
~Leo Buscaglia~


You should be thanking your lucky stars that you have another chance at happiness! Because the first time didn’t work out so well!

As long as you continue to give your old story a lifeline, you will never get past the pain. You will forever be held back from reaching your full potential. Pull that plug sister now, before that monster comes back to life!

Remember, with life comes phases. And with each phase comes change. Consider this your next phase. You can make this next phase the best phase yet depending on how you choose to respond to your divorce.

Nothing good can come from retelling that old story. But limitless possibilities can come from releasing that past. Because it is your choice!

Stop Holding a Grudge!

You have a new chance at writing your own ending!

Don’t Waste It!

Until next time,

Happy Living!

Christia Sale

The Most SELFISH Woman in America!

Women’s Life After Divorce Expert


P.S. Are you still holding a grudge or are you letting go? Let me know how you are releasing your old story to make room for your new one by leaving a comment below. It may help others.




Women Happily Divorced – Feeling Young Again

I was with a group of girlfriends the other night. These are all women happily divorced. A rowdy bunch for sure!

One of the ladies was telling us that she would have never found her soul mate if she hadn’t had the courage to leave a miserable marriage. She said that she never knew this level of love existed. And she was talking emotionally and physically!

The more we talked about it, the more I heard a common thread. All of these ladies perceive themselves as much happier after their divorce than before. More empowered, more worthy, more balanced – happier.

Another one of the ladies commented that women our age, who had the courage to break away from their miserable marriages, can feel young and full of promise again. They can get that old “sass” back. They just have to give themselves permission to do so. These women were perfect examples.

Remember… that young girl… who used to get giddy when she saw a boy she liked? The girl who used to feel like she could do anything? That girl can be you, and you are the only one that can give yourself permission to feel that way again.

Women feeling that exuberance for life and love again. Feeling brave, confident, flirtatious. And I don’t just mean flirtatious with men, I mean flirtatious with life!

These are women happily divorced. Women who want to enjoy life to the fullest. Women who take control of their happiness.

With confidence comes sass, and with sass come flirtation. With flirtation comes fun. And isn’t that one of our goals in life – to have more fun? To enjoy life to the fullest? To be in each and every moment?

Even physical intimacy takes on a new meaning. It isn’t for procreating anymore. It’s for fun. Yes, it’s also for showing someone how you feel about them, but it’s fun. That feeling of playfulness is prominent in these women’s lives again. They are enjoying themselves.

This is one of the benefits of being the leading lady in your own life. Giving yourself permission to have fun again. And what you do with it is up to you.  Because it’s your turn.

New life! Fresh start! Endless possibilities!

You have been given a second chance at happiness! You can feel young and sassy again! Give yourself permission to live the life of your dreams! Be one of the women happily divorced!

Your happiness is a choice – your choice. The time is now! The power is yours! Use it!

Until next time,

Happy Living!

Christia Sale

The Most SELFISH Woman in America!

Women’s Life After Divorce Expert

P.S. If you feel like you need a little help getting started, click here. I’m here to help! My goal is for you to be happy again! Together we can make it happen. It’s your choice!



Rebuild Life After Divorce for Women

What are you going to do with the rest of your life? You realize that how this turns out is ALL in your control, right?

Bad things happen to everybody, but it’s how we choose to respond that dictates the outcome.

I want to offer a few things to think about when you rebuild life after divorce.

1 – Choose to live with passion and purpose!

2 – Choose to create the life of your dreams!

3 – Choose to live a healthy, active lifestyle!

4 – Choose to be happy!

5 – Choose to make this world a better place than it was when you got here!

That may sound big. Maybe even insurmountable. But you would be shocked how easy and natural it really is when you tap into your true and authentic self. It is much easier than conforming to what someone else wants you to be. One gives life, and one sucks it out of you.

It’s time to see the world differently – time to see yourself differently. It’s time to see yourself unfolding before your very eyes!

You  have probably suppressed your true self for so long, you forgot you were in there, smoldering, waiting to be set free. Chances are you were living in fear. Fear of losing what you thought you had, but really didn’t.

I have a completely different attitude about my self and my life now. I will never see myself the same way again. Thank You God!

And now it is YOUR turn! It is your turn to reassess how you are living your life. It is your turn to redirect your choices toward living with passion and purpose. It is your turn to choose to be happy!

How exciting is that? To be given a second chance to live up to your potential! To live with passion and purpose! To be happy! And only YOU can make that happen.

My challenge for you is to search your soul, ask yourself the following questions, and then to listen to your answers honestly:

– “Is this how I want to live the next half of my life?”

– “Do I have a passion and purpose in my life?”

– “Am I living my Dream Life?

– “Am I happy?

There will never be a better time to rebuild your life after divorce than now and I can help. What are you waiting for?

No really – What are you waiting for???

Until next time,

Happy Living!

Christia Sale

The Most SELFISH Woman in America!

Women’s Life-After-Divorce Expert

P.S. Would you like to share your journey when you rebuild life after divorce? Leave a comment and we will chat! Cheers!