7 Steps to Happiness After Divorce Workshop

Hello there, soon to be lovers of life.

A quick note about what’s on the calendar. If you are in the Austin area, I am giving a positive recovery and reinvention workshop at Unity Church of the Hills, 9905 Anderson Mill, Austin, TX 78750.

The workshop, titled 7 Steps to Happiness After Divorce, will be a seven week series starting October 2, 2012 and running through November 13, 2012. It will be every Tuesday night from 7:00 – 9:00pm for seven consecutive weeks. The cost will be $120 for the course, which includes one free class, or $20 per class. We will be using my book as a study guide, which will be available in class for $12, personalized and autographed.

Each class will be packed with easy, effective and proven steps to my positive recovery after divorce system. And before we are through, you will possess the tools needed for creating your best life yet. You will also be given action steps that will guarantee your transformational success. If you participate, you will be successful.

You can sign up at http://www.unityhills.org/events.htm#7steps ,which is preferable, or you can pay at the door.

I want to share this opportunity with you because you have been so kind to be apart of my world and my journey. I also know that this workshop will never be [Read more…]

Stop Holding A Grudge!


Ok – you are finally free from the ugly marriage you were in. You have released yourself from the physical obligation of that marriage. You have released yourself from the legal obligation of that marriage.

But have you released yourself from the emotional obligation? Have you forgiven yourself for your part in it and released it to the Universe?

Good question. And a question that deserves an honest answer – from YOU.

You can say that you are over it all day long, but are you really?

Can you tell that old story without getting all worked up again? Can you honestly say that you have let go of your resentment for the way you were treated in this whole thing? Do you really feel like you have made peace with the past and your part in it?

It’s time to Stop Holding A Grudge! 

It’s time to release the past and the power it has over you.

As long as you breathe life into that old story by retelling it and talking about it, the longer it will have power over you. Because the only one that suffers is you! (And your kids if you have any.)

When I say “power” I mean the effect it has on your emotions; the effect it has on your decision making. And how talking about that time in your life can bring back those painful feelings that you so desperately want to escape from.

But how can you escape from those feelings if you continue to bring them back into your existence? And you are doing it to yourself! Stop it!


“You don’t drown by falling in water. You drown by staying there.” ~ Unknown.


Yes, you have to mourn the loss of the “dream” of a happy marriage. It is part of the healing process and it is healthy. But continuing to use that story as an excuse for why you are not happy now is a cop-out.

You are essentially floundering in the past and letting it define you.

Your divorce does not define you – YOU define you!

If you’ve read my book , you know that how you choose to respond to your divorce dictates how this is going to turn out. You can wallow in self-pity, not changing the circumstances and prolonging your misery, or you can choose to make the most of this new chance at happiness.


“Let go. Why do you cling to pain? There is nothing you can do
about the wrongs of yesterday. It is not yours to judge. Why
hold on to the very thing which keeps you from hope and love?”
~Leo Buscaglia~


You should be thanking your lucky stars that you have another chance at happiness! Because the first time didn’t work out so well!

As long as you continue to give your old story a lifeline, you will never get past the pain. You will forever be held back from reaching your full potential. Pull that plug sister now, before that monster comes back to life!

Remember, with life comes phases. And with each phase comes change. Consider this your next phase. You can make this next phase the best phase yet depending on how you choose to respond to your divorce.

Nothing good can come from retelling that old story. But limitless possibilities can come from releasing that past. Because it is your choice!

Stop Holding a Grudge!

You have a new chance at writing your own ending!

Don’t Waste It!

Until next time,

Happy Living!

Christia Sale

The Most SELFISH Woman in America!

Women’s Life After Divorce Expert


P.S. Are you still holding a grudge or are you letting go? Let me know how you are releasing your old story to make room for your new one by leaving a comment below. It may help others.




Are You Living Your Dream Life After Divorce?

I want you to ask yourself a question. “Is this how I want to live the rest of my life?” OK, two questions. “Is this all there is?”

If your answer is “I don’t THINK so!”, then it is time to take a good, long look at your life, where you are right now. Are you living the life you have always dreamed of living? Are you crazy happy with who you are now and the life you have created for yourself?

Not to worry. I am here to guide you. It is not too late to make your Dream Life your reality, and I will show you how. Due to multiple requests, I am now offering personal consultations for guiding you out of the darkness of misery and into your bright, happy future. (Check on the Shop page for details.)

You still have the whole second half of your life to be as happy as possible. If your current circumstances do not live up to your dreams, change them.

If you have lived through the chaos that came from divorce, or any other traumatic event, your life is either going through major change now or has in the recent past. And you can dictate how those changes will form your future. Since your life is in upheaval anyway, why not make the outcome the Dream Life you have always envisioned for yourself? It is in your control, and the sooner you embrace that fact, the happier you will be with the new life you create for yourself.

You can choose to either replace your old life with a similar, stagnate existence, or you can fuel your change to produce a healthier, happier, more dynamic life. You can settle for the familiar, or you can have the courage reach for the stars.  I vote for the stars, but it is your choice.

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Be Brave!

It’s time to be BRAVE!

It is time for you to step out of your comfort zone, and do something new and daring and challenging! It’s time for you to push your boundaries and open yourself up to what life has to offer. It’s Your Turn!

I just returned from another stint in France only this time I did something I have never done before: I went to spend time with a man I met when I was there in March. What was I thinking?

You can’t do that. You don’t do that. You don’t up-and-go to a country where you barely speak the language to see a man you rented a gite from and knew for a mere eight days before flying half way across the world for a three-week rendezvous.

No idea what possessed me, but I did it anyway! I gathered up the courage, threw all caution to the wind, and [Read more…]

A New Life Is Possible!

You are never going to believe the changes my life has taken in the past 2 months!

OK, so it was time for me to take the final step in releasing my past to make room for new beginnings.

In the beginning of February, I decided to sell my house of twelve years. That house was beautiful, but it was also the place where the saddest times of my life happened. Even though I loved the house itself, I didn’t love all the memories that were there. You can’t escape them. When you turn the corner and are hit in the face with memories that you wouldn’t be forced to continue to deal with if you weren’t in the place where they happened.

And  how can I teach other people to release the past to make room for the future if I can’t do it myself. So, I made the tough decision, and then did everything needed to get the house ready to sell. Now, mind you, I was already leaving for a month long trip to explore France on the first of March. Needless to say I was frantic to get everything done before my departure. But I had decided the timing was perfect and I was going to do everything in my power to make it happen!

I had 12 years of “stuff” that I had accumulated in that house that needed to be weeded out. I don’t know about you, but in the unhappiness of my marriage, I “collected” things. I would buy things to make me [Read more…]