What Is Your Passion?

November 7, 2012 By 2 Comments

No, I don’t mean your “50 Shades of Gray” passion. I mean your life passion.

What is it now? Do you even know? Have you given any thought to how your passions and purpose have changed over the years. Because it changes with each phase of life.

When you have experienced something like divorce, your passions and purpose naturally change. As your life evolves, so do the things that are important to your happiness.

Now is the time to reevaluate what your current passions and purpose are, and a good way to do that is to take The Passion Test, created by Janet Bray Attwood and Chris Attwood.

I use this test in my workshops to help people identify what they love most and what is most important to their happiness.

The interesting thing is that when we realize how our passions have changed, we’re surprised. We aren’t aware that what we think is important changes as we experience life. This is a good exercise to do every six months to a year. You will be amazed.

When you are changing your life path, clarity in your [Read more...]

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7 Steps to Happiness After Divorce Workshop

September 13, 2012 By Leave a Comment

Hello there, soon to be lovers of life.

A quick note about what’s on the calendar. If you are in the Austin area, I am giving a positive recovery and reinvention workshop at Unity Church of the Hills, 9905 Anderson Mill, Austin, TX 78750.

The workshop, titled 7 Steps to Happiness After Divorce, will be a seven week series starting October 2, 2012 and running through November 13, 2012. It will be every Tuesday night from 7:00 – 9:00pm for seven consecutive weeks. The cost will be $120 for the course, which includes one free class, or $20 per class. We will be using my book as a study guide, which will be available in class for $12, personalized and autographed.

Each class will be packed with easy, effective and proven steps to my positive recovery after divorce system. And before we are through, you will possess the tools needed for creating your best life yet. You will also be given action steps that will guarantee your transformational success. If you participate, you will be successful.

You can sign up at http://www.unityhills.org/events.htm#7steps ,which is preferable, or you can pay at the door.

I want to share this opportunity with you because you have been so kind to be apart of my world and my journey. I also know that this workshop will never be [Read more...]

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Ladies, It’s Never Too Late to Learn

July 19, 2012 By Leave a Comment

I just finished spending most of last week at the eWomenNetwork Conference in Dallas. I was in the presents of some amazing women who are busy changing the world .

All of these women have a mission to make this world a better place by empowering women through their businesses. It was so refreshing to be around like-minded people who are spreading the word of the power and potential of women.

This is your reminder that it’s never too late to learn. It is important to always be learning new ways of accomplishing your goals in life. Keep those creative juices flowing. Surround yourself with dynamic, successful, like-minded people who either have experiences to share or who can supply you with the knowledge needed to elevate you to the next level in business and your life.

You will also be pleased to know that I learned how to make videos, which is why you didn’t get one last week. I am setting everything up that I need to make my videos more interesting and informative. I want you to see that I feel you and understand you, because I’ve been there myself.

I am learning as much as I can how to get my message to you and other [Read more...]

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Divorced Women – Stop Holding a Grudge!

July 5, 2012 By 2 Comments

Hi everybody! I hope you had a fabulous 4th of July, and that you all survived the festivities.

This week I want to remind you of the importance of releasing the past and the power it can have over you.

Click play for a quick reminder of how to recognize if you are still hanging on, and how to stop it.

 

Here is the transcript for those who like to read:

Hi! It Christia Sale, the Selfish Woman!

Ok – you are finally free from the ugly marriage you were in.

You have released yourself from the physical obligation… from the legal obligations.

But have you released yourself from the emotional obligations?

Forgiven yourself for your part in it and released it to the Universe?

Good question. And it deserves an honest answer – from YOU.

Can you honestly say that you have let go of your resentment for the way you were treated in this whole thing?

Do you really feel like you have made peace with the past and your part in it?

It’s time to Stop Holding A Grudge!

It’s time to release the past and the power it has over you.

As long as you breathe life into that old story by retelling it and talking about it, the longer it will have power over you. And the only one that suffers is you.

And when I say power, I mean the effect it has on your emotions. How talking about that time in your life can bring back those painful feelings that you so desperately want to escape from.

But how can you escape from them if you continue to bring them back into your existence. And you are doing this voluntarily!

Voluntarily… as in self-imposed!  Stop that!

“You don’t drown by falling in water. You drown by staying there.”

Yes, you have to mourn the loss of the “dream” of a happy marriage. It is part of the healing process and it is healthy. But continuing to use that story as an excuse why you are not happy now is a cop-out.

You are basically wallowing in the past and letting it define you.

Your divorce does not define you – YOU define you!

How you choose to respond to your divorce dictates how this is going to turn out for you.

As long as you continue to give your old story a lifeline, you will never get past the pain and you will forever be held back from reaching your full potential. Pull that plug now, before it turns back into a monster!

Nothing good comes from retelling that old story. But limitless possibilities can come from where you choose to go from here. It is your choice!

You have a new chance at writing your own ending, exactly how you want it to be!

Don’t waste it!

So, If this video was beneficial, hopeful, or inspiring, or if you just want to contribute to the conversation, leave me a comment below, make sure you subscribe, and share it with your friends. If you want access to more info plus extras that I can’t put on videos, go to themostselfishwomaninamerica.com & sign up for the updates.

This is Christia Sale, the Selfish Woman, saying You Deserve to be Happy and I’m here to help!

So until next time,

Happy Living!

Now it’s your turn. I want to hear from you.

Do you catch yourself talking about your old story and getting worked up all over again? Do you want to be able to stop that cycle?

Leave me a comment on your situation. We can work on it together. I’m here to help!

Cheers!

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Stop Waiting on Your Weight!

May 23, 2012 By Leave a Comment

Reality check list: Procreated? Check! In mid-life? Check! Work in a chair? Check! Eat, at all? Check!

OK ladies! With all we have been through, we need to give ourselves a break!

Yes, we have dealt with a lot in our emotional lives, especially if you have experienced divorce. We have gone through some serious changes. We have had a lot to deal with in every aspect of our lives.

But ladies… we have to stop waiting on our weight!

A recent stroll past the mirror led me to a double-take: “Who the hell is THAT?” Oh. It’s just me, a physical manifestation of the challenges I’ve endured as of late… And they are written all over my body!

But not to worry; I’ll just work on losing that extra poundage brought on by all the stress and those extra wrinkles brought on by Father Time walking across my face. No really, I got this!

And as soon as I get that done, I’ll get back to enjoying my life. I’ll do those things I’ve been putting off because I didn’t like the way I looked, or the size of my pants. As soon as I check those off my list, I’ll get back to living!

… You’re kidding me, right???

Here is an example of how this happens: Last year I tore my meniscus in my right knee and was unable to exercise for six months, post-op. In that time, I sat at my computer and focused on my writing and my business.

Needless to say the lower half of my body took on a new identity without clearing it with me first.

One day I was trying to put on my favorite pair of jeans when it dawned on me that clearly those jeans had just been washed and consequently shrunk in the process… because, you know, they do that.

So I go out to the mirror, jeans still stuck half-way up my thighs, and almost trip into the sink because I can’t walk.

The all-out panic ensued when I turned around to see why the jeans could not go up any higher. There it was, probably the biggest butt I have ever had outside of pregnancy.

So immediate action was taken to shave off that excess without using a machete.

Now, being limited in my exercise because of my knee became a challenge. I wanted to, quite literally, run my butt off. Alas, I couldn’t do that anymore. And you can only cut back so much on your food intake without, well, dying.

Little did I realize that I was so wrapped up in my own ego and what I “looked” like that I wasn’t enjoying my life. I kept thinking that everything would be better when I was smaller. Inevitably that jumpstarted the vicious cycle of thinking that I was not good enough like I am.

The moral of this story is stop waiting on your weight! Life is too short to let your ego keep you from enjoying each and every moment to the fullest!

Do not to gauge your self-worth by your pant size. Yes, take care of your body, and get back to a healthy weight for your frame, but don’t think that defines you. YOU define you. Don’t impose that baggage upon yourself.

If you’ve read my book, you know that I have a chapter on living an energetic lifestyle, which covers various fun ways of dealing with that alien butt.

Divorce has given you a second chance at happiness. Don’t let something like your ego keep you from from enjoying every moment you are lucky enough to experience.

As soon as you stop focusing on your weight and start focusing on your new life, your weight will take care of itself. You won’t be using food for comfort or entertainment. You will have new, exciting things to fill that void food used to fill.

So get back to living. Enjoy each moment for the blessing it is, and thank the Universe for your second chance at happiness!

Stop Waiting on Your Weight!

Until next time,

Christia Sale

The Most SELFISH Woman in America!

Women’s Life After Divorce Expert

P.S. Has this ever happened to you? Let me about it in the comments below. It lets us know where not alone out there.

 

 

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