Face it – there is such a thing as too much age difference. Demi and Ashton are the prime example, next to Anna Nicole Smith and what’s his name.
What do you expect when people are in two totally different phases of life? That’s not fair to ask of either person. The younger person is eventually feel held back, and the older person will be put in a position of doubting either themselves or their spouse. What sense does that make?
The craziness is we think we are different when it comes to love. “No one is like me.” “Once they have me, they won’t want anyone else.” Yada, yada, yada….
The reality is that if either spouse has a laps in integrity, that is all it takes. It won’t matter how wonderful you are. The fact is that if they do it once, they will do it again. And do not let them convince you otherwise. People have control over their choices. You can always say NO. And if you choose to say YES, then you are also choosing the consequences of that choice. Their behavior is in their control. And whether you choose to allow it or not is all in your control.
So here we have another case of a spouse “wondering” shall we say, and the wife is left dealing with the pain, not to mention embarrassment, in public. Not only was she betrayed by her husband, but she was also punished for his behavior by having to deal with it in the public eye.
Here are three ways of possibly avoiding this whole fiasco:
1) Date someone in the same phase of life as you. This is paramount if you want to eventually get married.
2) Date them for at least 2 years. If you are in mid-life, it’s not like you are in the procreating phase. What’s the hurry!
3) If you are dating someone who has been divorced, make sure you know why. This is very telling of what you can expect. Be realistic.
At this age, common sense rules. The heart should be heard, but reason should prevail, because you have seen all too often what can happen. Divorce gets easier the more you do it. And remember, you don’t have to get married to prove your love.
The bottom line: enjoy life, live it to the fullest, just don’t marry the young one, because you will get older one day….
Until the next celeb gets divorced,
GET SELFISH! BE SELFISH! CHEERS!
Christia Sale
The Most Selfish Woman in America!
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I think that age does not matter. That we can be in all stages of life at any one time, no matter our age. and I think that these two were VERY happy for a very long time. And they did a lot of positive things for many people. And I feel VERY sorry for them. And hope and pray that they will find peace and forgiveness around this situation.
Anna Nicole was 26 ( in 1994) when she married oil tycoon J. Howard Marshall aged 89. He died a year later, 1995. Old Marshall gave her $7M in cash, diamonds, houses, cars and did not mention her in his Will. She later sued Marshall family demanding $400M.
Superb points TMSWIA! Best part was that “reason should prevail” – if only more women would take your advice. My compliments.