First things first: My website has been under construction for the last couple of months, which is why it’s been quiet over here. But, as you can see, it was worth the wait. I love my new format! So much easier to use. I hope you feel the same. 

That being said, let me ask you….

Are you tired of being sad?

Are you ready to heal from your divorce as efficiently and effectively as possible?

Are you ready to get on with your life and live with passion and purpose?

Nothing compares to the feeling of being on the right path, when you know you are doing what you were meant to do.

When you are in alignment with your purpose, things and people fall into place. And you can’t question it. You have to ride the wave of momentum.

It’s as if you take a step into the unknown, and before your foot lands on the ground, a new brink has been put on your path to support the direction of your journey. It’s the magic of the Universe. Amazing!

I have recently created a group called The SELFISH Woman’s Club. I wanted to offer a place where divorced women could meet others who are traveling down the same path.

It is so important to know that you are not alone, that you were not singled out, and that this too will pass.

The response to the group has been overwhelming, and heart warming. This is a community that has been needed – badly. I’m honored to offer it.

My goal is to have a safe, non-judgemental space that offers acceptance, support and new ways of thinking. The results will be the most efficient, effective positive recovery and reinvention possible after such a negative life experience.

Friends don’t let friends stay sad! There is no need to continue to be miserable if you don’t have to.

Besides having a couple of happy hours a month for fun and friendship, we are going to have one meeting a month for a mini-workshop based on my proven SELFISH System, and my 7 Steps to Happiness After Divorce. We will also be having occasional guest speakers that share the same message.

There are so many dynamic women out there that need guidance for the most effective and efficient healing experience. You still have that vivacious person inside, she has just gotten temporarily lost. It’s time to get her back. Even if you don’t think you have ever really met her, I’m about to introduce you.

For those of you living in the Austin area, I look forward to meeting you. For those of you who don’t, I will be offering a teleseminar soon. I will post it here and on my Calendar of Events.

Ladies, it’s time to break free from the hold your past still has on you. It’s time to find your passion and purpose for this new phase of your life. And who knows, you might even surprise yourself!

It’s time to make your divorce the BEST thing that ever happened to you!

Until next time,

Happy Living!

Christia Sale

The Most SELFISH Woman in America!

P.S. I would like to know what you would be interested in learning about in a group like this one. Please leave me a comment/suggestion of what topics you would like to have included. I’ll make a list and check it twice!

Cheers!

]]> http://www.themostselfishwomaninamerica.com/are-you-ready-to-heal-from-your-divorce-as-efficiently-and-effectively-as-possible/feed/ 0 http://www.themostselfishwomaninamerica.com/new-start-clean-slate-what-are-you-going-to-do-with-yours-in-2013/ http://www.themostselfishwomaninamerica.com/new-start-clean-slate-what-are-you-going-to-do-with-yours-in-2013/#comments Thu, 27 Dec 2012 22:50:14 +0000 Christia http://www.themostselfishwomaninamerica.com/?p=1367 What ARE you going to do with yours? I know you are thinking about it now… with the best intentions….

I want to offer a few suggestions to think about in your mission to fix all of your wrongs by making a list of intentional rights.

New Year’s Resolutions:

#1 – Resolve to have more fun and be engaged in every moment of every day!

#2 – Resolve to see yourself and your life completely differently!

#3 – Live a healthy, active lifestyle!

#4 – See something spectacular this year!

#5 – Feel something spectacular this year!

#6 – Live with passion and purpose!

#7 – Choose to be happy!

There you have it. My suggestions for New Year’s resolutions, or should I say intentions. We start with the best intentions, and then as life unfolds, we forget them. But if we will embrace the lifestyle that incorporates these goals, we can’t help but be happier.

In reflecting back on what I did and learned last year, I am totally sold on living an adventure. You have to put yourself out there, though. You have to stretch beyond your comfort zone, and open yourself up to new experiences. And you’ve got to be comfortable with the unknown, which was challenging at times, to say the least.

But I see the world differently now. I see myself differently now. And I like it!

I have never been so open to what the Universe will offer me than I am now. I feel like I am blooming, unfolding before my very eyes. Who knew?

I guess I had suppressed my true self for so long, I forgot I was in there, burning, waiting to be set free. I think I was living in fear. Fear of losing what I thought I had, but really didn’t.

I have a whole different attitude about myself and my life. I will never see myself the same way again. Thank You God!

And now it is YOUR turn! It is your turn to reassess how you are living your life. It is your turn to redirect your choices toward living with passion and purpose. It is your turn to find that passion and purpose!

How exciting is that? To get a new chance to live up to your potential! To live with passion and purpose! And only YOU can make that happen.

My challenge for you is to search your soul, ask yourself the following questions, and then to listen to your answers – honestly:

- “Is this how I want to live the next half of my life?”

- “Do I have a passion and purpose in my work and my life, and is it fulfilling?”

- “Is my life having a positive impact on this world?”

- “Am I living my Dream Life?”

- “Am I happy?”

There will never be a better time to be true to your passion and purpose than now. What are you waiting for?

Really – What are you waiting for???

Re-read this post on finding your passion and purpose. It will give you some direction on living your best life yet: http://www.themostselfishwomaninamerica.com/what-is-your-passion/. We will talk more about this in the beginning of this New Year.

May your New Year and your dreams come together as one healthy, happy life. This is my wish for you.

Happy New Year Everybody! And until next time,

CHEERS!

Christia Sale

The Most SELFISH Woman in America!

Women’s Life-After-Divorce Expert

P.S. Let me know what you plan to do with your new start. A clean slate is a beautiful thing. Be selective what you write on it. Leave me a message in the comments below about your dreams for the New Year. Putting them down gives clarity, which in turn brings success.

Cheers!

Some people feel like a spotlight is shining on their sad and lonely life.

Well no more!

This year I want you to approach the holidays in a whole new way. This year I want you to give yourself the best gift you could ever receive.

If you live in the Austin area, I want to invite you to my presentation on December 18, 2012, from 7:00p – 8:30p. at Unity Church of the Hills. The topic is Survive the Holidays With Happiness.

Let me ask you this: Do the holidays make you sad and lonely, or happy to be alive?

You will be in the right place if you are tired of feeling like the only one in your group who is alone, or worse yet, lonely. This is for you if you don’t want to ever feel that way again.

I will show you how.

If you don’t live in Austin, I will be having a complimentary training call in the beginning of January that will be addressing my 7 Steps to Happy Blueprint. I will let you know the date as soon as it is on the schedule.

To survive the holidays with happiness, attitude is the key. I will give you tips on how to make this holiday season the beginning of your best life yet. I will show you how to get excited about life again. You will learn tools for surviving any holiday stronger, wiser and happier.

My wish for you this festive season is to start seeing yourself and your life in a completely different way. Join me on December 18, 2012 from 7:00 – 8:30p at Unity Church of The Hills and transform your holiday and every day into your best life yet.

Let me be your agent of change. Let me show you the way to happiness and success. It is in your control.

So until then,

Happy Living and Happy Holidays!

Christia Sale

Women’s Life After Divorce Expert

The Most Selfish Woman in America!

What is it now? Do you even know? Have you given any thought to how your passions and purpose have changed over the years. Because it changes with each phase of life.

When you have experienced something like divorce, your passions and purpose naturally change. As your life evolves, so do the things that are important to your happiness.

Now is the time to reevaluate what your current passions and purpose are, and a good way to do that is to take The Passion Test, created by Janet Bray Attwood and Chris Attwood.

I use this test in my workshops to help people identify what they love most and what is most important to their happiness.

The interesting thing is that when we realize how our passions have changed, we’re surprised. We aren’t aware that what we think is important changes as we experience life. This is a good exercise to do every six months to a year. You will be amazed.

When you are changing your life path, clarity in your passions keeps you focused on your goals. Clarity is the key. That gray area will interfere with your efficiency of transformation.

I don’t know about you, but I don’t want to waste time diluting my efforts. I want to be happy as soon as possible. So the clearer I am about what I want for my life, the clearer my path is. It’s that easy. We complicate our life by living in the gray area, not being clear on what we want.

So here are your ACTION steps for reassessing your passions and purpose:

1. Think hard about what you want to be, do and have in your life now. What would make you happy and fulfilled?

2. Make a list of at least ten passions that could finish the sentence “When my life is ideal, I am….” Passions are verbs, usually ending in ing. For example, When my life is ideal, I am traveling with my work. Passions are how we live our life, not to be confused with goals, which are what we want to achieve.

3. After making your list, let it percolate for awhile, then go back to it. If you want to alter it, do so. Make sure you have at least ten, although your list can be endless. This exercise helps you clarify what is deeply important to you at this time in your life.

4. Compare the first passion with the second and decide which one is more important. Label that one # 1. Then compare #1 to the next one on the list and decide which passion is more important, which will now become your #1. Go through the list until you end up with the one passion that is most important. That one is officially #1.

5. Now do the same with the rest of the passions, going back to the top of the list, working your way through until you have them prioritized them all.

6. Your top five are the most important passions in your life right now. Living these passions will make you happy.

The Attwoods will tell you in their book The Passion Test what to do with that information. It really is an enlightening book. It provides very clear-cut steps to identifying your passions and what to do with that information. I recommend it highly.

Just remember, like T. Harv Eker says, “What you focus on expands.” And Mike Dooley says, “Thoughts become things, choose the good ones.” If you focus on your top five passions, you can bring them into your reality.

You have the power. Use it!

Until next time,

Happy Living!

Christia Sale

The Most SELFISH Woman in America!

Women’s Life After Divorce Expert

I physically and emotionally moved out of my house of 14 years.

I loved that house. I loved the promise it offered in the beginning, and the refuge it offered in the end. But those times in between were hell.

So, I did it. It took at least three weeks to go through 14 years of memories, treasures and keepsakes, and only a fraction of the time to start rejoicing in the purge. Purging the old makes room for the new.

It is amazing how cathartic a good purge can be.

Today I saw an aquaintance in the grocery store and she commented that I looked 20 years younger. And she’s know me for at least ten years. Obviously she knew me during the bad times. She asked what I had done. I told her I released my past and I am embracing my new life.

I repeat – it’s amazing what a good purge can do for you.

And embracing my new life looks like this: Teaching a positive recovery and reinvention after divorce workshop called the 7 Steps to Happiness After Divorce.

With every phase of life your passions and purpose change. Your passions evolve as your life does. I always knew I liked speaking in front of groups of people, and now I have a very special message to share. Interesting how things play out.

The connection I feel and the passion I have for sharing this message of healing and hope are bigger than I am. So I’m going to get my ego out of the way and let the message flow through me. It’s my way of making this world better than it was when I got here. I’m honored to be the vehicle.

This means that my vision for my Dream Life has altered also. Now it includes speaking in front of thousands of people. I live in the knowing that that will be my reality and I’m perfectly comfortable with it. It feels right.

So if you haven’t done your “Visualizing Your Dream Life” work yet, now is the time. My next video will go into detail how to do just that. Then the subsequent video will provide you with the tools to make that vision your reality.

I also recommend reevaluating your passions and purpose, which have altered due to what you have been through recently. It’s time to look at them again and see what you really feel is the most important to your happiness now. You might be surprised at the answer.

The Passion Test by Janet Bray Attwood and Chris Attwood is a great place to start. I use their test in my workshops. It offers clear, easy steps to discovering your life purpose. Your new passions and purpose are the foundation for the goals you want to achieve in your new phase of life and the vision you have of your Dream Life. It is important to start identifying these so that you can gain clarity. The clearer you are in your vision, the sooner it will become your reality.

As soon as life gets settled, I will start back on the videos. Much more backdrop potential at the new house.

Don’t forget: Purging the old makes room for the new. So get on it!

Until next time,

Happy Living!

Christia Sale

The Most SELFISH Woman in America!

Women’s Life After Divorce Expert

PS: Let me know how your “purging the old to make room for the new” made you feel. Was it cathartic for you too? Or not? Leave me a comment on your experience. No judgement here.