Isn’t it amazing how all of the sudden you wake up one day and your whole life is changing…again?
You know, that time period between the divorce and your finally being on your own, literally?
It comes in phases.
Phase I: the actual divorce and your ex moving out
Phase II: the recovery period, where you try to catch your breath and make sense of it all
Phase III: when you start to see the beauty of your future, and focus on achieving your Dream Life
Phase IV: when your children start moving out, for what ever reason, and you’re OK with it.
The order of the last two can interchange. But it’s amazing how fast that time passes…
None of us can completely control how this unfolds, because there are too many factors involved that you don’t have control over. Like how other people will act or react to what has happened to your family. The dynamics of that are volatile. Depending on how hurt the feelings are of the participants dictates how rough the transition will be.
Hopefully you will have the time you need in each phase to be emotionally ready for the next one.
But the reality is that you can wake up one day and get thrown into a phase that you are not ready for.
You are going along, thinking you have a handle on the changes that your life has taken. Then all of the sudden, you get hit in the head with, yet again, another big change. Damn! How long is this going to keep happening? Enough already!
Brace yourself: Your survival technique has to be go with the flow.The more you fight the inevitable, the harder your life becomes. And usually people fight the inevitable because they want to think they can control everything, or they don’t want to face the change.
Remember, once the change has been initiated, things will never go back to what they once were, no matter now much you fight against it, or for it.
You have to accept the fact that you can only control how you are going to respond to what happens, not what happens!
The sooner you learn this lesson, the sooner you can control the type of life you will live.
Make the conscious choice to respond positively to whatever life dishes out. You need to enjoy life on a daily basis. You never know what tomorrow will bring, especially if your recent history is any indication!
You have to break that unhappy cycle. You have to decide that you are not going to participate in the negative anymore. It’s all up to you!
Remember, it’s your turn to be happy for a change. It’s your turn to be a SELFISH WOMAN! YOU DESERVE IT!
Happy Living!
Christia
The Most Selfish Woman in America!
Tags: Change, Divorced Women, Happy, Positive Life, Selfish Woman
