Why is that?
Why do we tend to pretend that it’s not that bad, or that it must not have happened, or that we can take it?
Why do we do that to ourselves?
When I was in my miserable marriage, people didn’t get it. They only saw what I projected to the world. I didn’t want the world to know how miserable I was. And my EX didn’t want the world to know because it would have been a reflection on himself.
I was living a lie.
I kept thinking it can’t be as bad as I think it is. Everybody else thinks he’s such a great guy on the surface. Maybe it’s not really happening. Maybe it’s just that my standards are too high. Maybe no one can be as loving and reciprocal as I want in a relationship.
I waited until I was completely exhausted, broken down, a shadow of my powerful self. I waited until I realized that someone else was suffering also before I stopped the madness.
I thought I could endure it until the kids went off to college.
Classic case of tolerating pain, thinking no one else knows what our reality is.
If you are experiencing it, chances are the others in your house are too.
STOP THE MADNESS!
You do not deserve it. No one does. You do not have to put up with it. Your pain is real.
If you continue to tolerate pain, you will continue to get the same results. It won’t change until you make it change.
I am giving you permission to do what you need to do for YOU!
You deserve to be pain-free. Without pain. Sans pain.
Like Danielle says, there will always be a degree of pain that is unavoidable that comes with life. But when you can stop it, do so immediately!
Only you can make that shift in your life – your world.
No questions, no guilt, just action.
Look at your life. Is it time to stop the madness?
Only you can answer that question honestly.
Until next time,