It was fantastic! I love it! Great fun!

I want to share the experience with you, so I am providing you with a brief rundown of what was on the show.

My guest was Laura Fenamore, founder of www.OnePinky.com. Laura is a woman with an amazing story, and has turned her life experience into a mission to guide women to love what they see in the mirror. Her popular Body Image Mastery program helps women lose weight, reclaim their self-esteem, and start living bold, happy lives.

Laura’s having overcome her own battle with addiction, obesity, and eating disorders, she released 100 pounds 24 years ago and began a journey of guiding other women to live more joyous, balanced lives.

We talked about:

* Taking responsibility for your own happiness and your future, no longer being a victim; taking control of your health and your body

* How fear is a crippler – it can stop people from making major change in their marriages, their jobs, with their bodies, and how fear is self-imposed

* You have to release the old, negative tapes from your past and make new, positive ones though your thoughts and environmental input

-Being around positive people, not negative ones, which is sometimes challenging

-Saying positive things about yourself, not self-deprecating things

-Exposing yourself to motivational and inspirational input, not negative media sensationalism

* How society perceives over weight people, especially the way the media tells us that we are not good enough if we are not bone thin, and others buy into that thinking, perpetuating the madness

* The importance of acknowledging that feelings are self-imposed; no one can make you feel anything; only you can accept those feeling that you are going to feel, and once you realize that, you become empowered and in control of your happiness.

* Participating in the negative perpetuates the negative, and that is what you are trying to get away from. Don’t participate!

Laura also covered some tips for surviving the holidays and staying in control. Consider what your goal is for the party. Is it a culinary experience or a social experience? Will you feel guilty for what you ate, or happy with the people you interacted with? Are you going to be a victim of the “food pushers”, or “drink pushers” for that matter, or are you going to say no thanks and just enjoy being there. You don’t need food to enjoy yourself!

So there are a few of the things we discussed yesterday. And if you would like to hear the show in it’s entirety, log on to http://www.voiceamerica.com/episode/56900/the-new-you-with-laura-fenamore and click on “listen now.”

And don’t forget to go to www.OnePinky.com and check out what Laura’s successful programs are all about, and how you can change your life forever!

Join me next week when I chat with Cindy Ratzlaff, co-author of Queen of Your Own Life, which she wrote with actress and comedian Kathy Kinney. Their message is an empowering and humorous approach to life.

Tune in next week! It will be fun!

Until then,

Get Selfish – Be Selfish!

Christia Sale

The Most Selfish Woman in America!

P.S. Let me know what you think about the show topic. And I am always interested in what you want to hear discussed on the show. Just leave me a comment and we will chat.

Cheers!

I live in Austin where a river runs through downtown. There are rowing and kayaking businesses that offer access for everyone. If you are a novice, they will teach you. If you know how to row, you can go off on your own. They also offer events where you can start at one end of the river, and row down to the other end and watch the bats come out of the Congress Ave. bridge to fly south for the evening to feed. It’s fascinating, especially seeing it from the water. Austin has one of the largest bat populations in the nation.

So for $15 – $25 you can enjoy the peacefulness of the water, the sound of the boat gliding over the surface, or the majesty (also a little creepy) of millions of bats swirling into clouds and shooting down the river.

Something about the calmness of the water, your gliding past cliffs and trees, the resistance of the paddles against the current, puts you back in your place in this Universe. It’s symbolic of our powering our way through life, meeting the resistance we all face when working toward change.

And yet, it’s that effort that allows you to get to your destination successfully. Your body feels taxed, but it also feels good. Just like the energy exerted when changing the direction of your life toward a new path and a new goal. You derive satisfaction and enlightenment from your journey.

You have to put in the work, but the payoff is incredible. It takes effort, energy, and vision. It takes being consistence, persistence, and resistance. You know, the CPR approach I told you about that Jeff Herring came up with. You have to be consistent in your actions, persistent in your drive, and resistant to setbacks and those people who tell you that you can’t do it! Memorize this! It will keep you on track and sane.

Imagine, all that, and a good time too!

Explore your area for what it has to offer. You never know what you will get out of it!

Happy Living!

Christia Sale

The Most Selfish Woman in America!

Being the control freaks/problem solvers we are, we think we could or should have been able to prevent this stab in the heart, whatever form it takes. We over analyze the signs we should have seen, or how we could have planned ahead to avoid the dreaded outcome.

Reality is we can’t! No matter how hard we try to control everything in our world to keep negative things from happening, they still do. As long as other people are involved in the equation, you do not have the ultimate control. All of their “baggage” can’t help but seep into their interaction with other people, and there you are, effected by other peoples’ “stuff.” They’ve had a whole other life happen long before you were exposed to them, and you don’t know where they’ve been!

The sooner you face this, the happier your life will be. The sooner you embrace the idea of going with the flow, the healthier and less stressful your existence will be. All you can control is how you choose to respond to what happen to you. That is in your control.

You can choose to respond with a positive attitude, and make sure things turn out in the best way possible, or you can wallow in self pity, pout… still not changing anything… and prolong the misery. Your Choice!

There is an instant freedom in this reality. Once you accept the fact that you are not responsible for what happens to everything and everyone in your life, you think about things differently. Your creative juices flow free and clear again. You don’t take everything so personally. Your ability to choose a positive response becomes much easier. You don’t have the burden of the world on your shoulders anymore. You get back in emotional balance. You are able to enjoy life again.

And isn’t that what life should be about?

Happy Living!

Christia

The Most Selfish Woman in America!