Biography

My name is Christia Sale, and I was just like you. I stayed in an ugly marriage too long. I had been spending most of my life taking care of everyone else at the expense of my own health and happiness. But once I learned the seven SELFISH Steps for a positive recovery and reinvention after divorce, I changed my life in amazing and magical ways.

I forgave myself for the failure of my marriage.

I released the power that my past had over me.

I searched my soul for my purpose and passion.

I listened honestly to the answers.

I reconnected with the power of the Universe.

I found my inner peace.

I visualized my Dream Life, and made it my reality.

That’s why people call me the leading Women’s Life-After-Divorce Expert.

I’ve reached midlife, and I have children who are sprouting their wings.  But what I have to teach you comes from what I learned from surviving a rough marriage and an even rougher divorce.

It was HELL!

And I’m here to tell you that you do not have to be miserable anymore!

I was raised in an environment where family was the most important thing.  So it was sad when I realized, at the beginning of my marriage mind you, that I had made a big mistake.  But by then I was already pregnant.  I was also raised to believe that I should do everything possible to make a marriage work when there were children involved.  So, I thought that if I tried hard enough, he would come around to realize how lucky he was to have a loving family.  But he wasn’t used to that dynamic.  Can you say dysfunctional childhood?  I thought that I could “love” him to health.  What was I thinking?  I didn’t know any better.  I’m a hopeless romantic.

How similar is this story to your story? Crazy, right?

I got so caught up in trying to make my marriage work that I totally lost myself in the process.  Then I finally realized that nothing was going to save the relationship that I spent 17 years giving CPR to.

I woke up one morning and had an epiphany.  “Screw this! Life is too short to be so unhappy.  I don’t deserve to be treated this way.  No one does!  I am SO out of here!”

And that was all I needed.  I was done.  I was finished putting an egocentric, passive-aggressive (stop me now before I really get started!) husband’s needs above my own, and I was tired of living in a one-sided relationship.  The thought of staying in this situation for the rest of my life made my skin crawl. My time here was over! I deserved better!  It was my turn, dammit!

Don’t get me wrong, it took me a while to mourn the loss of the dream of a happy marriage, to lick my emotional wounds, and get my feet back under me. It doesn’t matter who instigates divorce, it is still traumatic to all involved. Don’t kid yourself that someone else’s divorce was easier than yours. That would be rare. Divorce is painful for all of us in one way or another.

We all have to go through the mourning process. But during my journey of recovery, I became aware of what I call the Seven SELFISH Steps for a positive reinvention after divorce. When sharing these revelations with my friends, they encouraged me to write them down and share them with other women in need.

Apparently the real me came back out to play. One day at lunch with my girlfriend, she commented on how happy I seemed to be, especially considering what I was going through. I thought about it, and she was right. She asked me if I had found a lover or something. I was shocked! But the reality was that I was finding my “self” again. I was reacquainting myself with my personal power and potential. I was coming back to life. My friend thought that if I had found the “magic pill” for recovering from divorce, it was my obligation to share with the rest of our “sisters” what I had learned. From that point on, friends started recommending me to their friends and family who were in need of guidance after divorce.

So there you have it. Through my own positive recovery and reinvention, I became the leading Women’s Life-After-Divorce Expert. I became The Most SELFISH Woman in America!

Now my goal, besides living the life of my dreams, is to share with others how to do the same. You do not have to be miserable and unhappy anymore! With these Seven SELFISH Steps you too can release the pain of your past, and live the life you always dream of living. Be the person you always dreamed of being.

You cannot escape the mourning process, but you can make your divorce the best thing that ever happened to you. For whatever reason, you have been given a second chance to live the life of your dreams. Don’t waste it!

I will show you how to do just that. I will teach you how to release your past and the power it has over you, and identify your life’s purpose. With that knowledge, you can dictate your future, and realize that your happiness is all in your control.

You will also learn that your happiness is a choice, not a result of your circumstances. That may be one of the most powerful lesson you will learn from this Women’s Life-After-Divorce Expert. One of my many gifts to you.

Your happiness is far too important to waste time reinventing the wheel. Let me guide you to becoming a SELFISH Woman so that you are not losing valuable time in your life being miserable.

Yes, the reason we are here is sad, but you will survive this, and end up with your best life yet if you follow my Seven SELFISH Steps for a positive reinvention. And why be sadder than you have to be? Why be more miserable than you have to be, for longer than you have to be? Stop the madness!

Let me, Christia Sale, The Most SELFISH Woman in America, and the leading Women’s Life-After-Divorce Expert, shorten your recovery, help you find your life’s purpose, and make your Dream Life your reality!

And all you have to do to start is to read my book The Most SELFISH Woman in America – How to Make Your Divorce the Best Thing That Ever Happened to You!  

 Available here on this website on the Shop page, Amazon.com and barnesandnoble.com.

I Am Christia Sale, The Most SELFISH Woman In America!